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As the parents of a Toddlers (0-36 months), there are so many challenges that thinking about sex education is the furthermost topic from most parents’ mind. Because, we need to raise healthy and sexually secure children, it is important to have open and frank age appropriate sex talk with children even at this young age.  Remember, it is never too early to educate your child about sex.

Typically children will ask where they came from, and many parents will give stock answers like “we purchased you from the market”, “we found you in the hospital”, “the stork dropped you to our home”. These answers are neither true nor constructive.  They should be told that that babies are born from the mother’s tummy. And if they want to know how the baby is put inside the tummy; as parents are ashamed to talk about sex, consequently most parents will avoid these types of difficult questions.

It is vital to share age appropriate answers with your toddlers when they ask you questions about sex.  It is never too early to start teaching your children about sex, and so important not to embed fallacies in their mind.

Below are the most frequent sex related questions that you will hear from your toddler, and the age appropriate answer.

How do babies get inside a mothers tummy?

An age appropriate answer to your toddler would be that mummy and papa make a baby by holding each other in a special way.

How are babies born?

For most children it is enough that doctors and nurses help the mother in taking the baby out, for more curious children it can be explained that the mother pushes the baby out of the vagina (note use the correct word, so that in the future the toddler can recognize the word)

Why doesn’t everyone have a penis?

Explain to them that bodies of boys and girls, men and women are different.

Why do you have hair down there? Why is daddy’s penis bigger than mine?

Explain to them as we grow older our body changes.

Even if you find the questions awkward, move forward by answering them. Be sure to use the correct terminology as you are laying the foundation for a secure and sexual healthy human being.

Therefore, in conclusion, in your talks with your child, you have to instill the confidence within them that they can approach you if anyone ever touches them inappropriately, and how to distinguish between what is an appropriate and inappropriate touch.

Learn more about Dr. Prerna Kohli

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About Dr. Prerna Kohli

Dr. Kohli believes that “You can talk with a close friend or relative about what’s troubling you; but it’s not the same as professionally-trained experienced psychologist who knows exactly what kind of help you need.”

She is a 100 women Achievers Award Winner (2016) from the Honorable President of India, Shri Pranab Mukherjee.

Dr. Prerna Kohli is a Clinical Psychologist, a Public Speaker, a Workshop Facilitator and a Holistic Practitioner. She offers Heart-based workshops and lectures that focus on Life Balance, Self-awareness and Inner Peace. Dedicated to sharing her knowledge and compassion with others, Prerna blends intuitive wisdom with solid understanding, creating a powerful holistic approach, specializing in the areas of Emotional change.

Dr. Prerna Kohli is a leading Psychologist in India and provides families, individuals, parents and children counselling on being happy.

Everyone of us has encountered parents with young children who misbehave in public places.  At restaurants, these children are running around yelling and screaming and generally disturbing other guests. In Malls, and Movie Theaters, we constantly see these children behaving unruly and acting hyperactive. These children have two types of parents, the first are those who can’t handle their offspring and the other type of parents are those who are indifferent to the mayhem their children are creating.

In civilized society it is important for parents to raise children who are well behaved and function appropriately in public.

Below are my seven favorite tips to parents for disciplining children:

Reward Good Behavior:

Positive reinforcement is much better than negative. Reward good behavior. The good behavior reward needs to commensurate the action. Big deeds should get big rewards, while a small action such as picking up their toys or cleaning their room (things which are their responsibilities) should be recognized with “good job”.

Be clear about rules:

To make it easy for your child to follow you rules, be clear about them. There should be no ambiguity or flexibility about the rules, if you child has to change her clothes after school, before being served lunch, ensure that this rule is followed on a daily basis. If you son can’t play video games unless his homework is completed, then the rule needs to be followed.

Neutralize Arguments:

When having an argument with the child, don’t clam up, instead neutralize the argument by agreeing with them, and taking the action that you wish to take.

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When you child misbehaves, don’t react immediately. Tell them that their actions weren’t appropriate, and that you need to decide on the punishment. Take a reasonable amount of time to calm yourself, discuss with the child what they have done is wrong, and then deliver reasonable and appropriate punishment

Be consistent about rules:

Between both the parents, and other family members there needs to be consistency regarding the rules. One parent can’t be seen as permitting unacceptable behavior.

Model Good Behavior:

Children will copy your behavior, if in restaurants you are loud, and rude to the waiters, your children will follow your lead.

Turn No into Yes:

When a child asks for a treat, instead of saying no, say yes with a task that they have to do. For example if your child says, can I have a chocolate, instead of saying No, say Yes you can have a chocolate after you have packed your school bag for tomorrow.

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About Dr. Prerna Kohli

Dr. Kohli believes that “You can talk with a close friend or relative about what’s troubling you; but it’s not the same as professionally-trained experienced psychologist who knows exactly what kind of help you need.”

She is a 100 women Achievers Award Winner (2016) from the Honorable President of India, Shri Pranab Mukherjee.

Dr. Prerna Kohli is a Clinical Psychologist, a Public Speaker, a Workshop Facilitator and a Holistic Practitioner. She offers Heart-based workshops and lectures that focus on Life Balance, Self-awareness and Inner Peace. Dedicated to sharing her knowledge and compassion with others, Prerna blends intuitive wisdom with solid understanding, creating a powerful holistic approach, specializing in the areas of Emotional change.

Dr. Prerna Kohli is a leading Psychologist in India and provides families, individuals, parents and children counselling on being happy.

First of all, raising a child isn’t easy, and there are Things Every Child Needs to Hear. Unfortunately, no manual exists on how to raise your child well. And for most parents, it is a “learning on the job”. Furthermore, most parents promise not to make the same mistakes that their parents made in raising them. Rather, they slip into the same mold.

One of the most important aspects of parenting is to have an open and honest communication with your children.

Given below are 7 Things Every Child Needs to Hear from his or her parents:

I Love You:

First of all, you as the parent need to frequently reinforce to your child that you love them unconditionally and that you are always there for them.

I am Proud of You:

Furthermore, your child should know and believe that you are proud of them, and their achievements, each child is different, each child is special, express the pride that you have towards your child

I am Sorry:

In addition, never be ashamed to apologize to your child, there will be many times when you miss a special occasion, a birthday, an event in school or something else where you have erred. There is no shame in apologizing to your child when you are at fault.

I Forgive You:

Most of all, children will make both big and small mistakes, in fact, all human beings make mistakes, forgive your child when they have made a mistake, strengthen your relationship with your child and move on

I am listening:

Especially relevant is listening, which is an art. It’s important to listen to your child, their stories, their aspirations, and their dreams. Switch off that phone, turn off your laptop and listen to them

This is Your Responsibility:

Most of all, give your children responsibility, help them grow to be responsible adults, give them age-appropriate responsibilities

You have got what it Takes:

Finally, repeated reinforce to your child that they have everything within them to succeed at whatever they decide to do

In conclusion, at the end of the day, the most overwhelming key to a child’s success is the positive involvement of parents; you need to be involved in your child’s life. Especially relevant to remember it is easier to build strong children than to repair broken adults.

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About Dr. Prerna Kohli

Most of all, Dr. Kohli believes that “You can talk with a close friend or relative about what’s troubling you. Furthermore it’s not the same as a professionally-trained experienced psychologist who knows exactly what kind of help you need.”

Most noteworthy, she is a 100 women Achievers Award Winner (2016) from the Honorable President of India, Shri Pranab Mukherjee.

Dr. Prerna Kohli is a Clinical Psychologist, a Public Speaker, a Workshop Facilitator and a Holistic Practitioner. Thefore, she offers Heart-based workshops and lectures that focus on Life Balance, Self-awareness, and Inner Peace. As a result, she is dedicated to sharing her knowledge and compassion with others. Consequently, Prerna blends intuitive wisdom with a solid understanding. Most of all, she creates a powerful holistic approach, specializing in the areas of Emotional change.

In conclusion, Dr. Prerna Kohli is a leading Psychologist in India. With over 20 years of experience and has been providing families, individuals, parents and children counseling on being happy.

What are drugs? A drug is any substance other than food, that when inhaled, injected, smoked, consumed, absorbed via a patch on the skin or dissolved under the tongue causes a physiological change in the body. and its side effects also harmful fo body.There are multiple reasons why your teenager may experiment and subsequently get addicted to illegal use of drugs (to learn more click here). To be clear,  certain medicines maybe legal when prescribed and consumed under the supervision of a qualified doctor, but when these same medicines are consumed without a prescription it is unacceptable and illegal.

If an teenager begins to behave odd without reason, such as being withdrawn, or being repeatedly tired / depressed, or angry and having uncontrolled behavior it is a possibility that he is developing a drug problem. and side effects of drugs is too much harm body and Parents tend to ignore these signs thinking that it is a part of growing up and puberty and/or hormonal issues, but if these signs are present then the parents needs to be more vigilant. (to learn more click here).Below are the top seven steps to take when you realize that your teen is taking drugs:

Remain Calm: Numerous extremely successful people have successfully experimented with drugs in their teens, and you need to stay calm and realize that this isn’t a death sentence, if handled effectively, this will just be a passing phase

Respond with love: There is no benefit of ostracizing the teen. You need to address this problem with love. Drug addiction is no different from any other disease. Would you respond any differently if your child was suffering from cancer or any other illness?

Don’t blame yourself:  You are not responsible for the actions of your child. Your role is not to blame yourself or the child but to tackle the problem

Talk to your teenager: Do not shut down the lines of communication

Acting out of fear and Lying to others to cover the addict’s behaviour: Don’t hide the facts from well-wishers. This is not the time to think of the reputation “izzat” of the family or the individual

Blaming other people or situations: Everyone makes choices, your teenager has made bad choices, don’t blame others for his choices

Resenting the addict: Do not resent the individual, go ahead and resent the drugs, but do not resent your child

If you find out that your child is indulging in drugs, there is a need for you to meet with an experienced psychologist because side effect of drugs is very dangerous.

“You can talk with a close friend or relative about what’s troubling you; but it’s not the same as professionally-trained experienced psychologist who knows exactly what kind of help you need” – Dr. Prerna Kohli.

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                                                                   About Dr. Prerna Kohli

She is a 100 women Achievers Award Winner (2016) from the Honorable President of India, Shri Pranab Mukherjee.

 Dr. Prerna Kohli is a Clinical Psychologist, a Public Speaker, a Workshop Facilitator and a Holistic Practitioner. She offers Heart-based workshops and lectures that focus on Life Balance, Self-awareness and Inner Peace. Dedicated to sharing her knowledge and compassion with others, Prerna blends intuitive wisdom with solid understanding, creating a powerful holistic approach, specializing in the areas of Emotional change.

Dr. Prerna Kohli is a leading Psychologist in India and provides families, individuals, parents and children counseling on being happy.

The first thing to remember is, that there are multiple reasons why your teenager may experiment and subsequently get addicted to the illegal use of drugs (to learn more click here). To be clear, a drug is any substance other than food, that when inhaled, injected, smoked, consumed, absorbed via a patch on the skin or dissolved under the tongue causes a physiological change in the body.  Certain medicines maybe legal when prescribed and consumed under the supervision of a qualified doctor, but when these same medicines are consumed without a prescription it is unacceptable and illegal.

If a teenager begins to behave oddly without reason, such as being withdrawn, or being repeatedly tired / depressed, or angry and having uncontrolled behavior it is a possibility that he is developing a drugs problem. Parents tend to ignore these signs thinking that it is a part of growing up and puberty and/or hormonal issues, but if these signs are present then the parents need to be more vigilant. Hence, below are the top seven signs that your teen may have a drug problem:

1. a change in peer group & decline in academic performance
2. carelessness with grooming
3. missing classes or skipping school
4. loss of interest in favorite activities
5. trouble in school or with the police
6. changes in eating or sleeping habits
7. deteriorating relationships with family members and friends

If you fear that your child is indulging in drugs, there is a need for you to meet with an experienced psychologist.

“You can talk with a close friend or relative about what’s troubling you; but it’s not the same as professionally-trained experienced psychologist who knows exactly what kind of help you need” – Dr. Prerna Kohli.

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About Dr. Prerna Kohli

She is a 100 women Achievers Award Winner (2016) from the Honorable President of India, Shri Pranab Mukherjee.

Dr. Prerna Kohli is a Clinical Psychologist, a Public Speaker, a Workshop Facilitator and also a Holistic Practitioner. She also offers Heart-based workshops and lectures that focus on Life Balance, Self-awareness and Inner Peace. Dedicated to sharing her knowledge and compassion with others, Prerna blends intuitive wisdom with solid understanding, creating a powerful holistic approach, specializing in the areas of Emotional change.

Dr. Prerna Kohli is a leading Psychologist in India and provides families, individuals, parents and children counseling on being happy.

As parents we expect our children to perform brilliantly in school. But most of child  not doing well in school. if your child performing poorly in school. Then It is important to remember this quote:

“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.” – Anonymous 

Each child has his or her own inherent skills and things that they enjoy doing, and as a parent, it is important for us to identify those skills whether it is painting, dancing or singing and help them excel in those areas.  Despite this, it is important to understand the root cause of why your child is not performing academically at his or best in school.

These are 7 reasons if your child performing poorly in school :

Cognitive deficits: A quick IQ determination helps here.

Learning disability: Is the child suffering from any learning disability such as dyslexia?

Social-emotional difficulties: Secondly, does the child have issues in interacting with peers, anger management etc?

Attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD): Third, is the child suffering from ADHD?

Executive dysfunction: Also, is he facing trouble doing executive function includes mental processes such as planning, organizing, sorting, regulating, prioritizing, and abstracting?

Bullying in school: Importantly, Is the child being bullied at school?

Dysfunctional Home: Lastly, Is the home life dysfunctional? That is to say, are the parents constantly fighting, or are there other issues in the parents’ marriage?

The reason that the child is not performing well in school can be varied and multiple, instead of unnecessarily disciplining and punishing the child, it is far more appropriate to meet with an experienced psychologist.

“You can talk with a close friend or relative about what’s troubling you; but it’s not the same as professionally-trained experienced psychologist who knows exactly what kind of help you need” – Dr. Prerna Kohli.

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About Dr. Prerna Kohli

She is a 100 women Achievers Award Winner (2016) from the Honorable President of India, Shri Pranab Mukherjee.

Dr. Prerna Kohli is a Clinical Psychologist, a Public Speaker, a Workshop Facilitator and a Holistic Practitioner. She offers Heart-based workshops and lectures that focus on Life Balance, Self-awareness and Inner Peace. Dedicated to sharing her knowledge and compassion with others, Prerna blends intuitive wisdom with solid understanding, creating a powerful holistic approach, specializing in the areas of Emotional change.

Dr. Prerna Kohli is a leading Psychologist in India and provides families, individuals, parents and children counselling on being happy.

A common management term is FIFO, which means First In, First Out. This term simply means that the item which comes first must go first. This term is also applicable to human beings, to maintain the equilibrium that those who are born first should also die first. When this order of nature is broken, it leads to immense sorry.

In my private practice, I observe that parents who have lost their children are the neediest of psychological counselling. Thus, the death of a child is the most devastating loss. So, the parent mourns the loss of his or her child’s life, the missed potential and future together.

Hence, there are some steps which the parents can take to make to be able to cope with the death of their child.

Be Gentle with yourself: Firstly, don’t blame yourself for the death of your child.

Get Plenty of sleep: Secondly, Science has shown that a loss of this magnitude is equivalent to a major injury, and your body needs rest to recover

Remember to eat: In this grief, there is a loss of appetite, make sure that your body receives enough nutrition to sustain

Drink Water: It is very important to keep your body hydrated to function correctly

Avoid Alcohol and drugs: Also, don’t use abuse alcohol and make it a crutch to cope with this grief

Medication: Most importantly, don’t self-medicate, use antidepressants under the guidance of a doctor only

Meditation: Lastly, Meditate. It brings solace and the ability to cope with the loss

For a parent, death of their child is the worst possible pain, and they most likely need professional guidance to cope with this pain. I strongly urge the surviving siblings and parents to seek professional help from an experienced psychologist.

“You can talk with a close friend or relative about what’s troubling you; but it’s not the same as professionally-trained experienced psychologist who knows exactly what kind of help you need” – Dr. Prerna Kohli.

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About Dr. Prerna Kohli

She is a 100 women Achievers Award Winner (2016) from the Honorable President of India, Shri Pranab Mukherjee.

 Dr. Prerna Kohli is a Clinical Psychologist, a Public Speaker, a Workshop Facilitator and a Holistic Practitioner. She offers Heart-based workshops and lectures that focus on Life Balance, Self-awareness and Inner Peace. Dedicated to sharing her knowledge and compassion with others, Prerna blends intuitive wisdom with solid understanding, creating a powerful holistic approach, specializing in the areas of Emotional change.

Dr. Prerna Kohli is a leading Psychologist in India and provides families, individuals, parents and children counselling on being happy.

As a parent, your first instinct upon learning that your child is being bullied is going to be paternal where you want to fix the bully. Thus, Bullying is an unacceptable behavior among children. Also, Bullying is the use of force, coercion, threats, intimidation or aggressive behavior to dominate or subjugate others.

The most important responsibility of a parent is to ensure the safety and security of your child; as well as to equip your child with the skills to handle bullies. As your child matures, you may not always be present to protect them from bullies, hence it is very important to teach your child how to tackle these bullying situations when they arise in the future.

Listen without getting angry or upset
Reassure your child it’s not their fault
Don’t let the bullying dominate their life
Don’t charge off demanding to see the head teacher, the bully or the bully’s parents
Do not dismiss their experience
Don’t allow your anger, hurt, guilt, helplessness or fear to impede your actions
Lastly, Remember all schools are legally required to have an anti-bullying policy

Hence, ensure that your child doesn’t carry lifelong scars of being bullied, it helps to meet with an experienced and qualified psychologist.

“You can talk with a close friend or relative about what’s troubling you; but it’s not the same as professionally-trained experienced psychologist who knows exactly what kind of help you need” – Dr. Prerna Kohli.

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About Dr. Prerna Kohli
She is a 100 women Achievers Award Winner (2016) from the Honorable President of India, Shri Pranab Mukherjee.
Dr. Prerna Kohli is a Clinical Psychologist, a Public Speaker, a Workshop Facilitator and also, a Holistic Practitioner. She offers Heart-based workshops and lectures that focus on Life Balance, Self-awareness and Inner Peace. Thus, Dedicated to sharing her knowledge and compassion with others, Prerna blends intuitive wisdom with solid understanding, creating a powerful holistic approach, specializing in the areas of Emotional change.
Dr. Prerna Kohli is a leading Psychologist in India and provides families, individuals, parents and children counselling on being happy.

Bullying in society is a menace, and as a parent, it is important to monitor and recognize if your child is being bullied in school or other social settings. Such as the playground, tuition center, or in any other places.

Bullying is an unacceptable behavior among children. So, Bullying is the use of force, coercion, threats, intimidation or aggressive behavior to dominate or subjugate others.

Thus, The following behavioral changes are sign posts that your child may be bullied.

• If your child is generally careful but losing his stationary, and other supplies at school such a pens, pencils, crayons, etc
• Trouble sleep
• Extreme mood swings as well as venting out on the younger siblings, pets etc
• Wants to skip school, or other social activities
• Low self esteem
• Physical marks of hurt
• Deteriorating health, such as headaches, stomach aches, frequent fevers, tremors and a constant high level of stress

If you observe a few of these symptoms in your child, then they are good indicators that your child is being bullied in school. Hence, It is advisable to talk to the school authorities and meet with an experienced psychologist to ensure that there are no lifelong scars.

“You can talk with a close friend or relative about what’s troubling you; but it’s not the same as professionally-trained experienced psychologist who knows exactly what kind of help you need” – Dr. Prerna Kohli.

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About Dr. Prerna Kohli

She is a 100 women Achievers Award Winner (2016) from the Honorable President of India, Shri Pranab Mukherjee.

Dr. Prerna Kohli is a Clinical Psychologist, a Public Speaker, a Workshop Facilitator and a Holistic Practitioner. She offers Heart-based workshops and lectures that focus on Life Balance, Self-awareness and Inner Peace. Dedicated to sharing her knowledge and compassion with others, Prerna blends intuitive wisdom with solid understanding, creating a powerful holistic approach, specializing in the areas of Emotional change. 

Dr. Prerna Kohli is a leading Psychologist in India and provides families, individuals, parents and children counselling on being happy.

Bullying is an unacceptable behaviour among children.if your Child is a Bully, we have solution.  Thus, Bullying is the use of force, coercion, threats, intimidation or aggressive behaviour to dominate or subjugate others. Many parents tend to either ignore if their child is a bully or in the extreme case encourage their child to be a bully. They feel that a bully will be more successful in life. Unfortunately, the lifelong ramifications of a childhood bully are intense, and the child grows up to be an unhappy adult. They also have difficulty in having successful and meaningful relationships. Both boys and girls can be bullies.

Hence, Given below are 7 behaviors to recognize if your child is a bully.

Thus, If you feel that your child is a bully, it is strongly suggested to meet a qualified psychologist to reverse these characteristics:

Trouble sleeping at night

Age-inappropriate behavioural issues

Trouble at school, hence excessive complaints

Excessive need to be popular

Displaying aggressive tendencies with others

Domestic violence at home, verbal or physical

Relationship issues with either or both parents

If you observe any of these traits in your child, it is important not to ignore them, and instead seek professional guidance. Hence, Bully children grow up to be bullied as adults and have extreme difficulty in maintaining healthy relationships with others.

“You can talk with a close friend or relative about what’s troubling you; but it’s not the same as professionally-trained experienced psychologist who knows exactly what kind of help you need” – Dr. Prerna Kohli.

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About Dr. Prerna Kohli

She is a 100 women Achievers Award Winner (2016) from the Honorable President of India, Shri Pranab Mukherjee.

Dr. Prerna Kohli is a Clinical Psychologist, a Public Speaker, a Workshop Facilitator and a Holistic Practitioner. She offers Heart-based workshops and lectures that focus on Life Balance, Self-awareness and Inner Peace. Dedicated to sharing her knowledge and compassion with others, Prerna blends intuitive wisdom with solid understanding, creating a powerful holistic approach, specializing in the areas of Emotional change.

Dr. Prerna Kohli is a leading Psychologist in India and provides families, individuals, parents and children counselling on being happy.