Dr Prerna Kohli, India's leading psychologist explains strategies to deal with seasonal affective depression

BY: Dr. Prerna Kohli

Seasonal Affective Disorder: DIY

Noticing the symptoms for the seasonal affective disorder before it goes on to become a full-blown problem is proven to be of great assistance. A few ‘Do-It-Yourself’ or self-help strategies mentioned below can be used as preventive measures or a helping hand when dealing with seasonal affective disorder.

Get as much sunlight as possible

One of the reasons people develop SAD in winters is because of of the lack of light. Lack of light causes an imbalance in our biological clock and reduce serotonin and melatonin levels, which regulate our mood and sleep. Getting ample sunlight helps absorb vitamin D, which helps boost energy levels and improve your mood.

  • Take a short walk outside or sit outside and try sunbathing.
  • Increase the amount of natural sunlight in your house and offices by opening the drapes and sitting near the windows.

Exercise

Regular exercise promotes the production of serotonin, endorphins, and hormones that boost the mood. Consistent exercise is as effective as antidepressant medications. Exercise also tires the body out and helps improve sleep quality and boost self-esteem. An exercise that is continuous and rhythmic is beneficial for SAD. Activities like walking, jogging, swimming, and dance.

Dr Prerna Kohli, India's leading psychologist explains strategies to deal with seasonal affective depression
Dr Prerna Kohli, India’s leading psychologist explains strategies to deal with seasonal affective depression

Eat the right foods

While one of the symptoms of seasonal affective depression is craving for carbs. It is vital to eat the right food which will help the body stay motivated and stabilize mood swings. Intake of food with simple carbs should be avoided, rather eating complex carbs (like- bananas, brown rice, oatmeal, whole grain bread) is a better choice. Also, foods rich in omega-3 fats can improve your mood and work effectively.

Eating well-balanced meals with lots of fresh fruits and vegetables throughout the day in small portions will help in keeping up the energy levels. It also helps stabilize the mood swings.

Reach out to family and friends

Another symptom of SAD is social withdrawal and close relationships help reduce isolation. Staying alone might feel more comfortable but being around other people will improve your mood. Some ways you can connect with others are: calling or meeting a friend, having meals together with family, joining a support group for depression, volunteering.

Dr Prerna Kohli, India's leading psychologist explains strategies to deal with seasonal affective depression
Dr Prerna Kohli, India’s leading psychologist explains strategies to deal with seasonal affective depression

Manage your stress

Excess stress can lead to depressive symptoms. Figuring out where and why you feel stressed and dealing with them can subsequently reduce depressive symptoms. Practicing techniques like breathing relaxation, progressive muscle relaxation, meditation, and yoga can help manage stress.

Also having a positive attitude and thinking can drastically change the perception of the situation as extremely stressful.

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Dr. Prerna Kohli, India's top Psychologist explains the difference between sadness and depression

BY: Dr. Prerna Kohli

उदासीनता और अवसाद के बीच क्या फर्क है?

उदासीनता और अवसाद दोनों एक-दूसरे से अलग हैं। हालांकि इनके बीच फर्क करना काफी मुश्किल है। यदि कोई लंबे समय से दुखी है तो अकसर मान लिया जाता है कि वह अवसाद में है।

जबकि दुखी होना, खुद को व्यक्त करने का एक भाव है और अवसाद एक मानसिक बीमारी है। कभी-कभी दुखी होना आपको किसी बुरी स्थिति से निपटने में मदद कर सकता है। लेकिन इसके उलट अवसाद एक ऐसी मानसिक बीमारी है जो आपको रोजमर्रा के कामकाज करने में बाधा पैदा कर सकती है। उदासीन होना या दुखी होना एक सामान्य भाव है, लेकिन निरंतर यानी दो हफ्तों तक लगातार दुखी रहने से आप अवसाद में आ सकते हैं।

हर किसी के लिए दुखी होने के अपने-अपने कारण हो सकते हैं। इसे कोई नकार नहीं सकता। जबकि दूसरी ओर अवसाद होने के कुछ निश्चित मानदंड और निश्चित लक्षण होते हैं। नियमित इलाज की मदद से इससे बचा जा सकता है।

यदि आप अब भी यह नहीं समझ पा रहे हैं कि अवसाद और उदासीनता के बीच क्या फर्क है तो इस लेख को आगे पढ़ें।

Dr. Prerna Kohli, India's top Psychologist explains the difference between sadness and depression
Dr. Prerna Kohli, India’s top Psychologist explains the difference between sadness and depression

क्या मैं अब भी उन चीजों का आनंद ले सकता हूं जो मुझे वाकई पसंद हैं?

उदासीनता: दुखी होने के बावजूद आप उन चीजों का भरपूर मजा ले सकते हैं, जो आपको पसंद हैं।

अवसाद: अवसाद होने पर उन चीजों से रुचि खत्म हो जाती है, जो आपको पसंद हैं। यह अवसाद का एक लक्षण भी है।

क्या मेरी भावनाएं किसी निश्चित इवेंट या चीज को लेकर है?

उदासीनता: दुखी होने के कुछ निश्चित वजहें होती हैं जैसे किसी के द्वारा रिजेक्ट होना, होमसिकनेस, किसी नजदीकी की मृत्यु या फिर ब्रेकअप।

अवसाद: इस बात को स्पष्ट कर दें कि अवसाद बेशक किसी कारण की वजह से होता है, लेकिन अवसाद होने पर व्यक्ति नकारात्मक सोच से घिर जाता है। वह किसी भी बात पर नकारात्मक प्रतिक्रिया करता है। ऐसा करने की वजह से व्यक्ति और ज्यादा अवसाद महसूस करता है।

Dr. Prerna Kohli, India's top Psychologist explains the difference between sadness and depression
Dr. Prerna Kohli, India’s top Psychologist explains the difference between sadness and depression

क्या मैं सामान्य खाने और सोने के तरीके को फाॅलो कर रहा हूं?

उदासीनता: बेशक आप उदास हैं, लेकिन इस वजह से आपके सोने और खाने के पैटर्न यानी तरीके में कोई बदलाव नहीं आता है। आपकी जीवनशैली भी सामान्य रहती है।

अवसाद: अवसाद होने पर आपके खानपान की शैली में काफी बदलाव होने लगते हैं। मसलन आप अवसाद के कारण या तो ज्यादा खाने लगते हैं या फिर कम खाते हैं। इसी तरह आपको बहुत ज्यादा नींद आती है या आप अनिद्रा के शिकार हो जाते हैं। ये अवसाद के कुछ गंभीर लक्षणों में से एक हैं। जिन लोगों को अवसाद होता है, उनमें ऊर्जा की काफी कमी होती है और हमेशा थके-थके नजर आते हैं।

क्या मैं खुद का नकारात्मक आलोचक हो गया हूं?

उदासीनता: उदास होने की स्थिति में हो सकता है कि अपनी कुछ गलतियों के लिए खुद को जिम्मेदार ठहराएं, लेकिन इसके लिए आप अपराध-बोध या आत्मग्लानि जैसी भावना में नहीं आएंगे।

अवसाद: अवसाद, एक ऐसी स्थिति होती है जिसमें आप खुद के सबसे बड़े आलोचक बन जाते हैं। निरंतर अपराध बोध में रहते हैं और खुद को निरर्थक महसूस करते हैं। यही नहीं आपको यकीन हो जाता है कि आप किसी भी चीज में अच्छे नहीं हैं।

क्या मैं खुद को नुकसान पहुंचाने के बारे में सोचने लगा हूं?

उदासीनता: उदासीनता होने पर आमतौर पर आत्महत्या जैसे ख्याल दिमाग में नहीं आते।

अवसाद: जिन लोगों को अवसाद है, वे कई बार आत्महत्या के बारे में सोचते हैं और खुद को नुकसान भी पहुंचाते हैं।

यदि आपको अवसाद से संबंधित कोई भी समस्या है तो इससे निपटने के लिए विशेषज्ञों की राय लेना बहुत जरूरी है। इस संबंध में विशेषज्ञ आपकी सही मदद कर सकते हैं।

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Dr. Prerna Kohli, India's Topmost Psychologist gives a few words on couple therapy for depression

BY: Dr. Prerna Kohli

A Few Words about Depression Therapy for Couples

Depression can significantly impact all aspects of life, be it work, social, or close relationships. In the case of close relationships, depression can come in way of intimacy between you and your partner.

Now, couple therapy for depression is designed to help people with relationship distress and one depressed partner. Relationship distress very frequently influences the course of depression or could also be a reason of onset for depression, hence it is crucial to address any conflict and dissatisfaction within the couple.

Couples therapy for depression provides a confidential and safe space where you and your partner can explore issues that are affecting your relationship. The sessions in couple therapy for depression emphasize on emotional acceptance between partners and lessen their emotional reactivity to each other.

Dr. Prerna Kohli, India's Topmost Psychologist gives a few words on couple therapy for depression
Dr. Prerna Kohli, India’s Topmost Psychologist gives a few words on couple therapy for depression

How does it work?

In order make the most out of the therapy sessions, you as a couple need to be committed to the process and attend all your session. Typically, the therapist will see both out you together for the first session. Then you will be asked to attend one session individually to get a clearer picture of how you are in the relationship. The proceeding session, you both have to attend together.

The therapist will discuss the number of sessions you can expect and when the therapy will end. A session lasts anywhere between 50 minutes to an hour. You may also be asked to do homework task between session to build on the work you are doing.

Dr. Prerna Kohli, India's Topmost Psychologist gives a few words on couple therapy for depression
Dr. Prerna Kohli, India’s Topmost Psychologist gives a few words on couple therapy for depression

How is it going to help you and your partner?

Couples therapy for depression does not only focus on diminishing depression but also on improving the relationship quality. The therapist applies intervention that focuses on the exchange between the partners, healthy communication and problem-solving. Besides, the therapist also focuses on growing caring behaviour and reducing conflict between partners.

You will also learn how to manage your feelings of anxiety and stress, be more aware of your partner’s needs and feelings. These sessions will also help you better understand yourself and create self-awareness and communicate more openly and clearly to your partner. This will lead to increased confidence and trust in one another, reduced jealousy and an improved sexual relationship.

Attend couples therapy for depression if either you or your partner are going through depression causing distress in your relationship. It will help you achieve an overall stable family life.

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Dr Prerna Kohli, India's leading psychologist explains seasonal affective depression

BY: Dr. Prerna Kohli

Seasonal Affective Depression

Winter! The days become shorter, sunlight goes scant, and in front of the television we hide in our quilts all day long to stay warm. When does this seasonal tumble goes on to become a serious problem? Seasonal affective Depression aka SAD.

Seasonal affective depression is a type of depression which occurs specifically in a particular season of the year. Most people experience the symptoms of depression starting in Autumn, increasing during winter and are more prominent than depression in summers.

Seasonal Affective Depression is less severe than major depression?

No! This is a myth, rather it is as serious as major depressive disorder. In fact, it as a specifier for depression, or one would say a ‘sub-type’. People with seasonal affective depression experience symptoms at a particular time of the year and the rest of the time, it goes into remission. Once this switch happens over several times over two years, then it qualifies for the diagnosis.

Researchers have yet to find the exact cause of SAD but they have found a link between winter and how it can cause SAD. The low amount of sunlight in winter can create an imbalance in the biological clocks and reduce serotonin and melatonin, which regulate mood and sleep for us. Also, people who live further away from the equator or have a family history of depression could be at risk to develop SAD.

Dr Prerna Kohli, India's leading psychologist explains seasonal affective depression
Dr Prerna Kohli, India’s leading psychologist explains seasonal affective depression

Symptoms

Symptoms for SAD are the same as criteria for the diagnosis of major depression. They might include depressed mood, loss of interest in things previously enjoyed, weight loss or gain, changes in sleep or appetite, loss of energy, difficulty concentrating, feelings of hopelessness, and even thoughts about death.

People with the winter version of SAD might also have these unique symptoms:

  • Oversleeping
  • Appetite changes, especially craving high carb foods
  • Low energy, heaviness in arms and legs
  • Weight gain
  • Social withdrawal
Dr Prerna Kohli, India's leading psychologist explains seasonal affective depression
Dr Prerna Kohli, India’s leading psychologist explains seasonal affective depression

When to seek help

With people who do see a pattern of depression through the seasons and can identify with the above-mentioned symptoms, it is important to consult an experienced psychologist rather than to self-diagnose.

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Dr. Prerna Kohli, India's top Psychologist explains the difference between sadness and depression

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How to Tell Difference Between Sadness and Depression

It is difficult to tell the difference between sadness and depression. We often confuse the two because we associate depression with its salient symptom of persistent sadness.

While sadness is an emotion, depression is a mental disorder. Experiencing sadness might even help work through some difficult times. While depression is a mental disorder that causes interference in day to day chores. Sadness like any other emotion is brief although depression is persistent feelings of sadness, almost every day for two weeks or more.

Sadness is an individual’s subjective feelings and no one can deny that. On the other hand, depression has a set criterion of additional symptoms and requires an official diagnosis.

Now if you are confused even more and wondering if you are sad or depressed. Here are a few questions to ask yourself.

Dr. Prerna Kohli, India's top Psychologist explains the difference between sadness and depression
Dr. Prerna Kohli, India’s top Psychologist explains the difference between sadness and depression

Can I still enjoy the things I like?

Sadness: Being sad is awful but even when you are sad you can still enjoy the things you like.

Depression: One of the important features of depression is the lack of interest or pleasure in things previously enjoyed.

Are my emotions about a particular event or thing?

Sadness: Sadness is often having a specific cause- maybe something related to rejection, homesickness, death of a closed one, or a breakup.

Depression: Let’s be clear, yes depression can be trigger by something but a depressed person is conditioned to react negatively, after which they experience a greater and more general feeling of depression.

Dr. Prerna Kohli, India's top Psychologist explains the difference between sadness and depression
Dr. Prerna Kohli, India’s top Psychologist explains the difference between sadness and depression

Am I continuing to keep normal eating and sleeping pattern?

Sadness: You may be upset but on the whole, it is not seen to have changes in sleep or eating patterns of normal daily life.

Depression: Changes in appetite- overeating or not eating at all, excessive sleeping or insomnia are some of the major symptoms of depression. People with depression are often exhausted and have low energy levels.

Am I experiencing self-critical thoughts?

Sadness: You might blame yourself for something bad you did, but you don’t have feelings of worthlessness or guilt.

Depression: Depression is frequently accompanied by self-critical thoughts like I am worthless, I am not good at anything I do or excessive guilt.

Have I had thoughts about harming myself?

Sadness: Suicidal thoughts are not generally associated with sadness or grief.

Depression: People with depression may sometimes have suicidal or self-harming thoughts or might even go through with it.

It is important to connect with an experienced psychologist to gain an understanding and official diagnosis of your problem and have the psychologist help you through it.

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Dr. Prerna Kohli, India's Leading Psychologist explains Depression in Children

BY: Dr. Prerna Kohli

7 Ways to Help Children with Depression

As a parent, you prepare yourselves for every problem your child might face, small or big. That encompasses taking care of their mental health as well.

Depression is a serious medical condition that can negatively affect a child’s ability to connect with friends and family, enjoy normal daily activities, attend school and concentrate while there, and enjoy childhood.

Depression has reached alarming levels among youth. With the ratio 2:1 in children, girls are at being a higher risk than boys. The child might show just a few depressive symptoms or be in a full-blown depressive state. Below are a few tips that will help manage and prevent depression in kids.

Dr. Prerna Kohli, India's Leading Psychologist explains Depression in Children
Dr. Prerna Kohli, India’s Leading Psychologist explains Depression in Children

Focus on communication

First of all, listen to the child without any judgment and resist any urge to criticize. It helps create a safe environment where the child can openly communicate unconditionally. Acknowledging their feelings can make them feel understood and supported. Be respectful about the child’s comfort level while talking to them and still emphasizing your concern can be difficult but not impossible.

Make physical health a priority

Depression also affects the physiology of the child. Children face sleep disturbances and change in eating habits. It is important to exercise or engage in some kind of physical activity to help reduce depression and also take care of physical health. Be conscious of what your child eats. Provide them with a balanced diet that consists of nutrients for brain health and mood support like healthy fats, proteins, and fresh produce. Encourage your child to have plenty of sleep, up to 8-9hours every night for optimal functioning. 

Dr. Prerna Kohli, India's Leading Psychologist explains Depression in Children
Dr. Prerna Kohli, India’s Leading Psychologist explains Depression in Children

Assist in learning thinking and coping skills

Teach your child problem solving with the help of looking at problems from different perspectives, giving them different alternatives to the solutions and a positive perspective. Teach breaking the task into smaller steps to achieve success.

Be supportive

Going through therapy can be difficult and draining for the child as well as parents. The child gives you a hard time as well, understand that they are not doing this on purpose, but they are suffering. Stay involved in the treatment by making sure that the child is going to therapy, keep records of the change and report them to the therapist. Recovery can be a bumpy ride, there will be setbacks but also small victories. It is important to be patient and not judge and compare yourself to others.

Dr. Prerna Kohli, India's Leading Psychologist explains Depression in Children
Dr. Prerna Kohli, India’s Leading Psychologist explains Depression in Children

Help to find a hobby

Exploring different activities together until your child finds the one that they enjoy the most. You can try activities such as dancing, singing, sports, swimming, art, cooking, horseback riding and many more. They may lack motivation at first, but this will help develop social support.

Accentuate the positives

Notice the things your child is doing, recognize them, encourage and appreciate the child rather than counting on the things they did not do right. Outweigh the negatives with positives as this will help the child build self-esteem.

Encourage social connections

Depression often leads to withdrawal from society hence it is important to make time for face to face connection as it will help the child feel less lonely. Another way to combat social isolation is by to go encouraging your child to go out with friends or invite them over. Give them opportunities to meet and connect with other kids. Make you child pick up volunteer work, helping other people without one’s benefit gives them a sense of purpose and is also a self-esteem booster.

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Dr. Prerna Kohli, India's Leading Psychologist explains Identifying Depression in Children

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Identifying Depression in Children

Depression in children is a persistent and regressive condition, which accumulate over time. Hence, it is vital to identify and attend to depression at the earliest to reduce its long-term negative consequences.

Childhood depression is different from normal ‘blues’, irritation or being in a bad mood from time to time. But when these negative feelings and thoughts stay put for a long time and limit a child’s capacity to function normally with schoolwork, social activities and family life, however, the child may have depression.

Dr. Prerna Kohli, India's Leading Psychologist explains Identifying Depression in Children
Dr. Prerna Kohli, India’s Leading Psychologist explains Identifying Depression in Children

Identifying Depression in Children is not easy

It is difficult to recognize depression in children as many symptoms may get interpreted as the child being lazy, having a bad attitude or disrespect or being moody. Furthermore, depression leads to an increased risk of poor academic functioning, impaired social functioning, suicidal behavior, alcohol/ substance abused and other mental illnesses in the future.

Children who have a family history of depression or any other affect disorder are at a high risk of developing depression in childhood rather than those who don’t have a predisposition. Similarly, children under extreme stress, or have experienced trauma, neglect or abuse, or recently lost a relationship can be more likely to develop depression. Depression is almost easier to detect in ‘at risk’ children.

Rates of childhood depression have been rising in the past few years. Yet, the awareness has not caught on the same level. Majority cases of childhood depression are little known due to not being identified. 

Above all, depressive symptoms in children are difficult to detect as they are underlying, and children don’t quite have a clear understanding of emotions just yet. As a result, it is important to pay close attention to the warning signs a child might display.

Dr. Prerna Kohli, India's Leading Psychologist explains Identifying Depression in Children
Dr. Prerna Kohli, India’s Leading Psychologist explains Identifying Depression in Children

Warning signs:

  • Persistent feeling of sadness, hopelessness
  • Increased sensitivity
  • Irritability and anger
  • Withdrawal and avoidance
  • Changes in appetite
  • Sleep disturbances
  • Difficulty concentrating
  • Trouble making decisions
  • Boredom/ loss of interest
  • Difficulty with relationships
  • Persistent physical complaints (like headaches, stomach-aches or other pains)
  • Fatigue
  • Dropping grades
  • Thoughts and talk about death
  • Running away or threats of running away from home 

Early detection is a great help in the treatment. Treatment of childhood depression curbs the relapses and chronic episodes of depression in the future. It calls for immediate contact with an expert psychologist or counselor for an official diagnosis and treatment plan.

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Dr. Prerna Kohli, India's top Psychologist explains how eating dark chocolate reduces Depression

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DARK CHOCOLATE REDUCES DEPRESSION

A gift to someone or oneself, chocolate always brings a smile to the face, it is also well associated with cravings, enjoyment, pleasure, and feelings of nostalgia from childhood.

Chocolate comes in different flavors but to indulge in the right kind, is the decision one has to make to get the health benefits. Chocolate with a high concentration of cocoa makes the chocolate darker helps gain health benefits.

Dr. Prerna Kohli, India's top Psychologist explains how eating dark chocolate reduces Depression
Dr. Prerna Kohli, India’s top Psychologist explains how eating dark chocolate reduces Depression

Incorporating a piece of dark chocolate in one’s lifestyle gives various nutrimental benefits in iron, magnesium, potassium, phosphorus, and zinc. Dark chocolate is also known for its health benefits for improving metabolism and reducing stress, lowering the risk of developing heart disease, improving blood flow and lower blood pressure. Studies have now found a link between dark chocolate consumption and improving depression.

A recent research study has found eating dark chocolate may positively affect mood and help relieve depression symptoms. Depression is a very common mental health issue affecting more than 300 million population worldwide according to statistics by the World Health Organisation.

Dr. Prerna Kohli, India's top Psychologist explains how eating dark chocolate reduces Depression
Dr. Prerna Kohli, India’s top Psychologist explains how eating dark chocolate reduces Depression

Depression encompasses the following symptoms:

Depressed mood

Diminished of interest/pleasure

Weight gain/weight loss

Fatigue/loss of energy

Feelings of worthlessness, excessive guilt

Trouble concentrating

Recurrent thoughts of death

Reduced physical movements

Dark chocolate is a powerful source of antioxidant in the body helping improve inflammatory properties, which have been shown to play a role in the onset of depression. How dark chocolate helps lessen depression can be seen in its psychoactive ingredients like phenylethylamine and theobromine-stimulants, creating a feeling of euphoria and help reduce symptoms of fatigue and low energy in depression.

Dr. Prerna Kohli, India's top Psychologist explains how eating dark chocolate reduces Depression
Dr. Prerna Kohli, India’s top Psychologist explains how eating dark chocolate reduces Depression

Tryptophan in dark chocolate produces serotonin, the happy hormone of the body. Cocoa which makes the chocolate darker contains flavanol, helping to regulate the mood and even depression. Consumption of a small amount of dark chocolate daily helps improve memory and attention, reducing trouble concentrating in depression. Dark chocolate is also seen to soothe cramps and mood swings while on periods in women.

Indulging in a good quality of concentrated dark chocolate helps reduce depression, it should definitely be included in one’s diet to help uplift the mood. While dark chocolate helps reduce depression it cannot abolish the need for therapy, to say the least.

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Dr Prerna Kohli India’s Top Psychologist talks about what happens after a toxic relationship ends

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What happens when a toxic relationship ends?

At the end of an emotionally abusive relationship, you might feel burdened with inconclusive thoughts and overwhelming emotions. And this is absolutely acceptable. While your friends and family feel thankful for your break-up, they may not be able to understand the emotional turmoil going inside your heart and brain. But you should not carry on with toxic relationship

Dr Prerna Kohli India’s Top Psychologist talks about what happens after a toxic relationship ends
Dr Prerna Kohli India’s Top Psychologist talks about what happens after a toxic relationship ends

Let’s look at the end of an abusive relationship from the following aspects:

Mental and Emotional Health

Post being dumped by the person whom you considered to be your one and only soul mate, you might go through a roller coaster of emotions. The symptoms are often similar to that of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder.
There might not be any visible scars to make it obvious that you are hurt, but the pain is similar to that of a physical injury.
You might even show obsessive behaviour, where you constantly think about your ex, your break up.
The more the covert these symptoms are, the more damage it can do to your emotional stability and the ability to overcome the trauma.

Attachment or Addiction?

Dr Prerna Kohli India’s Top Psychologist talks about what happens after a toxic relationship ends
Dr Prerna Kohli India’s Top Psychologist talks about what happens after a toxic relationship ends

When two people part their ways in a healthy way, they may feel hurt, but it does not take a psychological toll on the two persons involved. They eventually move on as a practical approach was followed to end the relationship. But in an emotionally abusive relationship, the break up isn’t as clean, rather the abuser is manipulative.
The victim might not recognize signs and develop an emotional attachment towards them.
You might re-run the events from your relationship in your mind several times throughout the day or read the old conversations.
Being with a person becomes addictive over a period of time, like an unhealthy attachment. It might seem normal and justified to the victim, but this really hampers their emotional well-being.

Moving on!

Dr Prerna Kohli India’s Top Psychologist talks about what happens after a toxic relationship ends
Dr Prerna Kohli India’s Top Psychologist talks about what happens after a toxic relationship ends

The first step to moving on is to accept your situation. A few things that you could do to overcome such a relationship are:

Take care of your emotions

Repairing your emotions requires great efforts. When you get abandoned by someone you are so addicted to, it affects your self-esteem negatively. You can feel used and discarded, angry and isolated. Instead of suppressing and being a home to them, it is very important that you accept and acknowledge your emotions. Recognize how you feel. You can make a journal about the same. If you feel like crying or screaming, do that.

Pen it down

At times it might be difficult for you to talk about your broken relationship and what all you went through in that. But it is important to express in order to heal. To start with, you can keep a journal of your thoughts and emotions, gradually opening up about it verbally.

Confide in Close ones

Dr Prerna Kohli India’s Top Psychologist talks about what happens after a toxic relationship ends
Dr Prerna Kohli India’s Top Psychologist talks about what happens after a toxic relationship ends

You can always count on your close friends and families when you feel the need to. Surround yourself with people. Avoid isolating yourself with your thoughts all the time.

Cut-off contact with the abuser

You need to cut off the contact with your ex. Being vulnerable might drag you to his doors, but this would be unhealthy. It is important to maintain a distance when you part ways with your abuser. You may feel a pull towards him, but remember it is unhealthy for your mental health if you remain connected to him.

Do not stalk

It may seem like a nice idea to keep a tab on your ex by stalking him on social media or keeping in touch with his friends. But this is not ideal. You must focus investing your time and energy on yourself rather than knowing about his whereabouts.

Postpone important decisions

Dr Prerna Kohli India’s Top Psychologist talks about what happens after a toxic relationship ends
Dr Prerna Kohli India’s Top Psychologist talks about what happens after a toxic relationship ends

In the times, when you are emotionally unstable it is better to not make any important life decisions, which may affect your future. Let yourself feel and heal for some time first.

Practice patience

For a physical injury to heal there is always a defined set of medicines and treatment method that one follows and gets okay. But for an emotional setback, you need to give yourself time. Every person takes their own time to get out of an emotional difficulty. Focus on your progress.

Seek Help

If your emotions are way out of control and are hindering with your daily life, you should seek for some professional help. In the times, when we are vulnerable, we might not be in the right state of mind to be emotionally efficient. A bit of advice about situation and lifestyle changes by a professional can prove to be of great help.

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Dr Prerna Kohli India’s Top Psychologist tells About Depression and Its Reality

BY: Dr. Prerna Kohli

Depression: It is Real!

We have recently lost two very famous celebrities, Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain, to suicide. Similarly, we have lost many famous people who committed suicide including Robbin Williams and Chester Bennington. This shows the severity of the illness, which is ignored by many and shrugged by others. Depression. It is real and takes away everything from us.

Dr Prerna Kohli India’s Top Psychologist tells About Depression and Its Reality
Dr Prerna Kohli India’s Top Psychologist tells About Depression and Its Reality

Most of the people are aware of what depression is, yet we are ready to ignore what is lost. Sometimes, it comes hidden inside our smiles, and sometimes behind the silence. We become aware and unaware at the same time and close our eyes and wish it will go away. But, it doesn’t. We wish for riches, we wish for fame, for love but even when we receive them we are not able to grab hold of the happiness we wish for.

Depression comes in various forms and it engulfs us.

Few of the common symptoms of depression are:

Lack/Excess of Sleep:

A person who is suffering from depression will start exhibiting insomnia or hypersomnia. That is, the person will not be able to sleep at all or, will be sleeping too much.

Dr Prerna Kohli India’s Top Psychologist tells About Depression and Its Reality
Dr Prerna Kohli India’s Top Psychologist tells About Depression and Its Reality

Loss of Interest:

The person will lose interest in all the activities he/she loved to do. Hence, the person will not be able to take interest or pleasure in the activities they used to love.

Change in Appetite:

Depression takes away everything, including our desire to eat. Or, in the other extreme, we start eating too much. Thus, gaining or losing a lot of weight.

Irritability:

There is a constant irritability with-in the person. The person is not able to understand what is exactly happening with them. Hence, when someone starts questioning them they start becoming irritable. They are not able to handle all the questions inside them. They will start crying without reason or start getting angry.

Thoughts of Suicide and Death:

The thoughts of the person keep revolving around suicide and death. They become obsessed with those thoughts, and even in some cases they even try and commit suicide. They feel that there is no need for their existence.

The above symptoms should not be overlooked.

The person is maybe trying to say something, we need to be there to listen to the person.

Dr Prerna Kohli India’s Top Psychologist tells About Depression and Its Reality
Dr Prerna Kohli India’s Top Psychologist tells About Depression and Its Reality

In today’s time, we are indulged in social media and news of someone passing away affect minds and provides the extra push everyone is looking for. It is noted that after the suicide of Robin Williams, the suicide rate increased to 50% more. We need to understand that suicide is not the solution.

Also, suicide is not easy. It takes a lot of courage, it drains out all the energy of the person to just make one decision. But, as mentioned it should never be the answer.

We need to start taking steps, start acknowledging. Depression doesn’t look if you have money or fame or anything. It needs to be de-stigmatized. It is something we need not run away from, but something we need to acknowledge. A simple question, “how are you?” or “are you fine?” may do wonders for many. It doesn’t matter if the person is posting 100 photos on Instagram every day or appearing on TV shows or movies, it can be anyone.

In today’s fast-paced life, we have put on so many masks. Waiting. For someone to take off those masks. Be the person to remove those masks, provide help and if need, ask for help or seek help. Thus, if you or someone you know is suffering from depression, please seek professional help immediately. Remove the stigma. Win the Fight against Depression!

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