Not only does divorce impact your personal life, your standing in society, it can also have serious repercussions on your work life, and your performance in the office.

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It seems like, divorce can have a direct impact on your salary, your increments, and bonuses. Your job performance will suffer and while your employers can’t legally terminate you for being divorced. But, drop in performance has serious ramifications.

Given below are the 7 impacts of divorce on your work-life:

Reduced Productivity: Firstly, research shows that it takes 5 years for a divorced employee to rebound to the same level of productivity.

Unable to Travel: Furthermore, divorced employees with children or other household responsibilities have a limitation on their ability to travel for work.

Disruptive Impact on the Organization:  In addition, if a key employee is undergoing divorce their absence physically and mentally from the office can have serious impact on the organization

Distraction: Another concern is, distracted employees work slower and make more mistakes at the workplace, this can a serious impact for those who operate heavy machinery. People who are in customer-facing roles get the impact.

Depression: Rather, depressed employees are less creative. Hence the quality of work gets the impact. Thus, People in advertising and other creative fields which involve design see the effect.

Reduced confidence: As a result, the feeling of rejection from the personal life manifests itself in the workplace.

Rebound Relationships: Consequently the divorced employee seeks emotional support in the workplace making them vulnerable to a more toxic situation.

Progressive companies, have EAP (Employee Assistance Programs) to aid their employees in this period. In conclusion, if you are contemplating divorce, or are in the process of divorce or in the post-divorce phase, it is highly recommended to meet with an experienced psychologist.

“You can talk with a close friend or relative about what’s troubling you. It’s not the same as professionally-trained experienced psychologist who knows exactly what kind of help you need – Dr. Prerna Kohli.”

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About Dr. Prerna Kohli

She is a 100 women Achievers Award Winner (2016) from the Honorable President of India, Shri Pranab Mukherjee

Dr. Prerna Kohli is a Clinical Psychologist, a Public Speaker, a Workshop Facilitator and a Holistic Practitioner. She offers Heart-based workshops and lectures that focus on Life Balance, Self-awareness, and Inner Peace. She is dedicated to sharing her knowledge and compassion with others. Prerna blends intuitive wisdom with a solid understanding, creating a powerful holistic approach, specializing in the areas of Emotional change.

Dr. Prerna Kohli is a leading Child Psychologist in India. She provides both parents and children counseling on raising healthy and well-rounded children.

In certain marriages divorce is inevitable; hence many times parents continue to linger in an unhealthy marriage for the sake of the children, which is never good. But, Children are excellent observers. They notice and can see the underlying tension and conflict of their parents. It has a psychological impact on their well-being.

Given below are seven key impacts of divorce on children:

Reduction of Materialist Goods:

The same family income is now supporting two households, hence the disposable income is reduced and there are fewer “goodies” in the form of toys, clothes, vacations etc. The serious impact can be when reduction of income affects the nutrition of the children.

Relocation:

Moving to a different city, and/or school, the separation from one parent, as well as a complete disruption of the social environment, leads to behavioural changes. It generally takes 2 years for the child to readjust to the new environment.

Self Blame:

Children below the age of 9 tend to blame themselves for the divorce of their parents. Thus they, harbour an unrealistic fantasy of their parents reuniting.

Change in behaviour post-divorce:

Boys become more rebellious and aggressive, while girls become more anxious and withdrawn.

Readjusting:

Children of divorced parents have a far greater problem adjusting to the new circumstances if the parents continue to fight. Thus, the “visiting” parent has a critical role in the wellbeing and adjusts of their child.

More Compassion:

The older sibling in divorce generally becomes more compassionate and protective towards the younger children.

Peacefulness:

Children who are exposed to domestic violence, anger, high conflict, substance abuse, appreciate the serenity and peacefulness of their family life post-divorce.

While almost all divorce involves plenty of negative feelings, many parents post-divorce make extra effort to get along with their ex-spouse for the sake of their children. It is highly recommended that the children of divorce receive counseling from an experienced psychologist to help them adjust and the accept their new circumstances.

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About Dr. Prerna Kohli 

She is a 100 women Achievers Award Winner (2016) from the Honorable President of India, Shri Pranab Mukherjee

Dr. Prerna Kohli is a Clinical Psychologist, a Public Speaker, a Workshop Facilitator and a Holistic Practitioner. She offers Heart-based workshops and lectures that focus on Life Balance, Self-awareness and Inner Peace. Dedicated to sharing her knowledge and compassion with others, Prerna blends intuitive wisdom with solid understanding, creating a powerful holistic approach, specializing in the areas of Emotional change.

Dr. Prerna Kohli is a leading Child Psychologist in India and provides both parents and children counselling on raising healthy and well rounded children.

In my private practice as a Psychologist and a Marriage Counselor; I find that at times couples will come in for marriage counselling when it’s too late. As soon as you feel that there are problems in your marriage; it is a good time to have a counselling session. As the saying says “A stitch in time saves nine”.

Just like you never medicate yourself, similarly, you shouldn’t try and solve serious marital issues yourself. Given below are seven signals, signs, or indicators that you should meet a counsellor to discuss your issues.

You aren’t talking:

Communication is the most important part of marriage, the couple need to have open channels of communication with each other. Messages aren’t conveyed to each other via children or others

You’re talking, but it’s always negative talk:

You talk to each other, but the talk is always negative, you are either criticizing each other or finding fault with each other or your spouses family

You’re afraid to talk:

It is more convenient to avoid talking, as talking leads to fights, arguments and unpleasantness.

Affection, intimacy and sex are withheld as punishment:

Either of the spouses decides to be the “punisher” by withholding affection, and intimacy

You keep secrets:

While each individual is entitled some privacy in a relationship, to keep secrets in a marriage not a sign of a healthy relationship

You contemplate (or are having) an affair:

An affair is not only a signal of unfulfilled sexual desires but also a lack of something in the marriage. If a spouse is fantasizing about having an affair or is having an affair; it is time to meet a marriage counselor.

You’re living separate lives:

If your lives are independent, and you are living together as roommates than it is time to meet a psychologist to heal and repair the marriage.

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About Dr. Prerna Kohli

She is a 100 women Achievers Award Winner (2016) from the Honorable President of India, Shri Pranab Mukherjee.

Dr. Prerna Kohli is a Clinical Psychologist, a Public Speaker, a Workshop Facilitator and a Holistic Practitioner. She offers Heart-based workshops and lectures that focus on Life Balance, Self-awareness and Inner Peace. Dedicated to sharing her knowledge and compassion with others, Prerna blends intuitive wisdom with solid understanding, creating a powerful holistic approach, specializing in the areas of Emotional change.

Dr. Prerna Kohli is a leading Psychologist in India and provides pre-marriage, marriage and post marriage counseling.

Every marriage young or old tends to become a little stale and boring with time, the reasons generally are the day to day pressures of work and other social obligations, and the romance in your marriage get’s pushed to the back ground. Thus, Here are seven tips that I feel that can add spice to your marriage:

Hold Hands:

PDA i.e. Public Displace of Affection is a fun thing to do, hold hands while you walk in the mall, or even when you are watching a movie in the theatre or the television at home

Spend the Night in a Hotel:

Get away from the humdrum of your home, pack an overnighter and check-in into a hotel in your city. Hence, the change of scenery can do wonders

Share Naughty Text and Photos:

That’s it, nothing to explain!

Cook Together:

Spend time together cooking, chopping vegetables as well as making each other’s favourite dish

Get Out and Date (each other):

Go out on a date with each other like you did in your courtship. So, Dress up like you used to, set up a date and spend exclusive time with each other

Surprise Each Other:

Do the unexpected, bring home flowers along with bringing a gift just because

Do Something Romantic:

Have a candlelit dinner at home, go on a picnic, cuddle on the couch

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About Dr. Prerna Kohli

She is a 100 women Achievers Award Winner (2016) from the Honorable President of India, Shri Pranab Mukherjee

Dr. Prerna Kohli is a Clinical Psychologist, a Public Speaker, a Workshop Facilitator and a Holistic Practitioner. She offers Heart-based workshops and lectures that focus on Life Balance, Self-awareness and Inner Peace. Dedicated to sharing her knowledge and compassion with others, Prerna blends intuitive wisdom with solid understanding, creating a powerful holistic approach, specializing in the areas of Emotional change.

Dr. Prerna Kohli is a leading Psychologist in India and provides pre-marriage, marriage and post marriage counselling.

I believe that every couple who wishes to get married needs to undergo Pre-Marriage Counselling Below are the top seven reasons why you should undergo Pre-Martial Counseling prior to getting married.

High Expectations:

Both partners have a mismatched expectation of what marriage is, or how much they need to accommodate the other. So, a psychologist will help you spell it out

No marriage is immune:

Marriage is about adjustment, flexibility and acceptance, hence you need to set the ground rules prior to the event

Patience:

How to be patient with your spouse, as well as with their family and friends

New Environment:

Getting married involves moving into a new home, and a different environment, hence what to expect, and how to address the “homesickness”

New Culture, Traditions, Lifestyles:

What is expected from the spouses, is the marital home environment too strict as well as what are the dress code and etiquette of behavior

Age matters:

The older you are the more inflexible you are; not to say that the young are not inflexible, but the older one gets the more set in his or her way of doing things. Hence, The need to explore accommodating and flexibility

Understanding of Intimacy & Finance: 

Sex is a subset of intimacy, one needs to understand sex, intimacy and finance. Experience has shown that most unhappy and unsuccessful marriages are due to the lack of understanding of Intimacy and Finance.

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About Dr. Prerna Kohli

She is a 100 women Achievers Award Winner (2016) from the Honorable President of India, Shri Pranab Mukherjee

Dr. Prerna Kohli is a Clinical Psychologist, a Public Speaker, a Workshop Facilitator and also a Holistic Practitioner. She offers Heart-based workshops and lectures that focus on Life Balance, Self-awareness and Inner Peace. Thus, Dedicated to sharing her knowledge and compassion with others, Prerna blends intuitive wisdom with solid understanding, creating a powerful holistic approach, specializing in the areas of Emotional change.

Dr. Prerna Kohli is a leading Psychologist in India and provides Pre-Marital, Marital and Post Marital Counselling

Above all, every married couple desires to have a healthy marriage, but don’t know how. Thus, Here are 7 tips you can use to improve your marriage and make it healthy:

Spend Time with Each Other:  First and foremost too many times couples are caught up in their day to day routine and work pressures and don’t spend enough time with each other, make time for each other every day.

Show Respect for Each Other at All Times: Above all, how can you expect others to respect your spouse, if you don’t respect them.

Explore Intimacy: For instance, people confuse sex with intimacy, which is wrong, sex is a small subset of intimacy. Intimacy is the feeling of being in a close personal association and belonging together. To be genuinely intimate requires openness, vulnerability, and dialogue.

Create a Spiritual Connection:  For this reason, connect with each other through spirituality, whether praying together, practicing meditation

Improve Your Communication Skills: Accordingly, talk to each other, LISTEN to each other.

Forgive Each Other: All things considered, we are all human beings, learn to forgive your partner.

Look for the Best in Each Other: For this reason, ignore the rest focus on the best that is in our partner.

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About Dr. Prerna Kohli

She is a 100 women Achievers Award Winner (2016) from the Honorable President of India, Shri Pranab Mukherjee

Dr. Prerna Kohli is a Clinical Psychologist, a Public Speaker, a Workshop Facilitator and a Holistic Practitioner. She offers Heart-based workshops and lectures that focus on Life Balance, Self-awareness, and Inner Peace. Dedicated to sharing her knowledge and compassion with others, Prerna blends intuitive wisdom with a solid understanding, creating a powerful holistic approach, specializing in the areas of Emotional change.

Dr. Prerna Kohli is India’s leading Psychologist and is well known in pre-marital, marital and post-marital counseling.

People tend to throw the “D” word around carelessly; young couples, midlife, as well as older couples rapidly give divorce to each other in urban India.

Thus, here are seven things that are rarely discussed about divorce, and the divorcees learn about them the hard way.

Divorce feels a bit like death;

You are not only without your spouse but also their friends and family. You may have become extremely close to your spouse’s siblings, friends and family, but because of their loyalty to your spouse, they may sever all ties with you

Post-split life is kind of boring;

The process of divorce is full of drama, he said, she said, the lawyer said, the family said, all of a sudden post the divorce there is a vacuum in your life, which needs to be filled constructively

There is no “right” way to be divorced;

Also, there is no perfect “divorce” the emotional baggage remain.

It can turn ugly. Really ugly;

Moreover, don’t believe anyone who says divorce is easy or amicable.

You might second-guess your decision;

Thus, it is not uncommon to regret divorce post the decree. Thus, Counselling for both the spouses is strongly recommended during and post the divorce

Your family and friends may react in unexpected ways;

Also, Even those whom you consider very close to you may not appreciate or support your decision of divorce

A psychologist is just as important as a lawyer;

Lastly, the emotional baggage of divorce needs to be managed, or it leads to lifelong issues.

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About Dr. Prerna Kohli

She is a 100 women Achievers Award Winner (2016) from the Honorable President of India, Shri Pranab Mukherjee .

Dr. Prerna Kohli is a Clinical Psychologist, a Public Speaker, a Workshop Facilitator and a Holistic Practitioner. She offers Heart-based workshops and lectures that focus on Life Balance, Self-awareness and Inner Peace. Dedicated to sharing her knowledge and compassion with others, Prerna blends intuitive wisdom with solid understanding, creating a powerful holistic approach, specializing in the areas of Emotional change.

Dr. Prerna Kohli is a leading Psychologist in India and provides pre-marriage, marriage, and post marriage (divorce) counseling.