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At the end of an emotionally abusive relationship, you might feel burdened with inconclusive thoughts and overwhelming emotions. And this is absolutely acceptable. While your friends and family feel thankful for your break-up, they may not be able to understand the emotional turmoil going inside your heart and brain. But you should not carry on with toxic relationship

Let’s look at the end of an abusive relationship from the following aspects:

Mental and Emotional Health

Post being dumped by the person whom you considered to be your one and only soul mate, you might go through a roller coaster of emotions. The symptoms are often similar to that of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder.
There might not be any visible scars to make it obvious that you are hurt, but the pain is similar to that of a physical injury.
You might even show obsessive behaviour, where you constantly think about your ex, your break up.
The more the covert these symptoms are, the more damage it can do to your emotional stability and the ability to overcome the trauma.

Attachment or Addiction?

When two people part their ways in a healthy way, they may feel hurt, but it does not take a psychological toll on the two persons involved. They eventually move on as a practical approach was followed to end the relationship. But in an emotionally abusive relationship, the break up isn’t as clean, rather the abuser is manipulative.
The victim might not recognize signs and develop an emotional attachment towards them.
You might re-run the events from your relationship in your mind several times throughout the day or read the old conversations.
Being with a person becomes addictive over a period of time, like an unhealthy attachment. It might seem normal and justified to the victim, but this really hampers their emotional well-being.

Moving on!

The first step to moving on is to accept your situation. A few things that you could do to overcome such a relationship are:

Take care of your emotions

Repairing your emotions requires great efforts. When you get abandoned by someone you are so addicted to, it affects your self-esteem negatively. You can feel used and discarded, angry and isolated. Instead of suppressing and being a home to them, it is very important that you accept and acknowledge your emotions. Recognize how you feel. You can make a journal about the same. If you feel like crying or screaming, do that.

Pen it down

At times it might be difficult for you to talk about your broken relationship and what all you went through in that. But it is important to express in order to heal. To start with, you can keep a journal of your thoughts and emotions, gradually opening up about it verbally.

Confide in Close ones

You can always count on your close friends and families when you feel the need to. Surround yourself with people. Avoid isolating yourself with your thoughts all the time.

Cut-off contact with the abuser

You need to cut off the contact with your ex. Being vulnerable might drag you to his doors, but this would be unhealthy. It is important to maintain a distance when you part ways with your abuser. You may feel a pull towards him, but remember it is unhealthy for your mental health if you remain connected to him.

Do not stalk

It may seem like a nice idea to keep a tab on your ex by stalking him on social media or keeping in touch with his friends. But this is not ideal. You must focus investing your time and energy on yourself rather than knowing about his whereabouts.

Postpone important decisions

In the times, when you are emotionally unstable it is better to not make any important life decisions, which may affect your future. Let yourself feel and heal for some time first.

Practice patience

For a physical injury to heal there is always a defined set of medicines and treatment method that one follows and gets okay. But for an emotional setback, you need to give yourself time. Every person takes their own time to get out of an emotional difficulty. Focus on your progress.

Seek Help

If your emotions are way out of control and are hindering with your daily life, you should seek for some professional help. In the times, when we are vulnerable, we might not be in the right state of mind to be emotionally efficient. A bit of advice about situation and lifestyle changes by a professional can prove to be of great help.

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Fighting schizophrenia illness is difficult in itself. It is a very serious illness, and it requires immediate treatment. But, along with treatment, it is necessary to self-care. Treatment can only help a person to a limit. But, self-care and support help the person to recover faster and stay in better shape.

 Hence, below are 7 self-help tips if you are suffering from Schizophrenia Illness:

1. Social-Support:

Keeping yourself socially engaged is one of the most important things. Social support doesn’t only limit to family and friends. But, it also means to engage yourself with activities and other people. Engaging and having social support will help in reduction of stress. If you are not able to join your work, then engage yourself in different modes and mediums which help you keep engaged with others. Also, having a social support will make you feel good about yourself.

2. Control Your Stress:

Increased stress levels release chemicals into your body which triggers schizophrenic episodes. Hence, it is important to manage your stress levels. Apart from engaging yourself socially, you can manage stress by doing relaxation techniques or engaging yourself with yoga, meditation or deep breathing.

3. Regular Exercise:

It is a well-known fact that exercise has many physical and mental benefits. Hence, it is important to keep yourself indulged in exercise daily. It is shown that regular exercise helps in controlling the symptoms. Hence, it is important to exercise daily for at least 30 minutes. You can engage yourself with three 10 minutes sessions. Also, focus on exercises which engage both your arms and legs, like, walking, jogging, running, dancing, swimming etc.

4. Plenty of Sleep:

It is important to get more sleep than the required 8 hours, especially when you are on medication. Many people who are suffering from schizophrenia have too much difficulty in sleeping. But, if the person is engaging in regular exercise, and avoid caffeine, then it is possible to get the desired amount of sleep.

5. Avoid Alcohol, Drugs and Nicotine:

Substances might seem like a relief object, but in reality, it interferes with the chemicals which are being secreted. Also, there is always a risk of addiction to the substances, which can complicate the situation more. Moreover, if you are on medication, then substances, including nicotine, can worsen the symptoms of schizophrenia.

6. Eat Regular and Healthy Meals:

Proper and timely meals can elevate your moods and keep a check on the symptoms. Hence, it is important to have proper meals. Also, remember to include Omega-3 fatty acids in your diet. It helps to improve focus, remove fatigue as well as helps in stabilizing the mood.

7. Write:

Writing helps in keeping the mind in control as well as handling all the thoughts which are going inside your head. Also, it helps in stress management. Hence, writing out your thoughts and emotions in a diary will help you understand yourself better as well as help you in your cognitive activities.

As mentioned earlier, schizophrenia is a very serious mental illness. The above tips can only help if you are already in treatment and trying to get better. Hence, if you or someone you know is suffering from schizophrenia then visit a mental health professional immediately.

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We have all heard the term, “Schizophrenia”, but few of us really know about this illness. Schizophrenia is a very challenging disorder, where it becomes difficult for people to distinguish between reality and what is unreal. A person who is suffering from this illness, goes through a heap of emotions, without even being able to understand those emotions. Also, it becomes more of a difficult task for the caretaker of that person, to really understand what is happening.

Thus, to fully understand what the illness about is, below are few warning signs for the illness:

1. Social Withdrawal and Depression
2. Suspicion and Hostility with extreme reactions towards criticism
3. Un-healthy living and personal hygiene being deteriorated.
4. Mostly and expressionless and flat gaze
5. Inability to express any kind of emotion or sudden expressions of laughter or crying
6. Insomnia or Hypersomnia with forgetfulness and not being able to concentrate
7. Speaking very odd or irrational statements. Thus, using strange words or statements.

These signs can occur from numerous mental health issues, but it is important to heed onto these warning signs. Hence, if any of the above signs are shown, please visit a mental health professional immediately.

Once we are aware of the warning signs of schizophrenia, it is also important to know and understand the symptoms.

Thus, below are the symptoms of Schizophrenia:

Broadly speaking, there are five types of symptoms which are included in schizophrenia. Delusion, Hallucination, Disorganized Behaviour, Disorganized Speech and the “Negative” Symptoms. All these symptoms vary from person to person. Thus, it is not important the person will show all the symptoms. Also, these symptoms can evolve or change over time.

1. Delusion:

It is a firm “idea” inside a person’s head despite clear evidence that it is not true. Over 90% of people who are suffering from Schizophrenia reflect this symptom. Below are types of delusions a person can have:

1. Persecution: In this, the person believes that someone is out to harm them. The person will have bizarre thoughts and ideas about what is going to happen.
2. Reference: In this, the person believes that people are always trying to refer to them. Even when the person sees a billboard or a TV advertisement, the person will believe it is about them only.
3. Grandeur: In this, the person has a strong belief that they are a very strong, powerful and famous person. The person can believe that they are Krishna or any other godly figure. Also, sometimes the person can believe that they have superhuman abilities.
4. Control: In this, the person believes that their thoughts are being controlled by someone else. The most common beliefs in control are, thought broadcasting, thought insertion or thought withdrawal.

2. Hallucination:

When a person is hallucinating, they are able to feel, hear, smell or even see sensations which are not real. Thus, it is only in their mind. Mostly, what people hallucinate are about person’s who they know. Also, these voices or sensations will be critical, vulgar or abusive. Hallucinations can occur from any of the five senses, i.e., auditory, visual, touch, olfactory, or taste. These Hallucinations can tend to be worse when the person is left alone.

3. Disorganized Speech:

People suffering from Schizophrenia have difficulty in concentrating and maintain a single chain of thought. Thus, making them jump from one sentence to the other very quickly, or not making sense when they are speaking. Thus, below are few common signs of disorganized speech:

1. Loose Association: The person will constantly shift from one topic to another, without any connection with the previous topic.
2. Neologism: They will make up words or sentences which will have only meaning for them.
3. Perseveration: They will keep repeating sentences or statements again and again. Hence, they will say the same thing over and over again.
4. Clang: They will start using meaningless rhymes. For example, You are met with get to shed Ned with the head.

4. Disorganized Behaviour:

People who are suffering from Schizophrenia are unable to take care of themselves. Thus, they do not have any goal-directed behaviour and are unable to work with anyone else. Disorganized behaviour can appear as:

1. Unable to do daily work
2. Inappropriate emotional response or unpredictable emotional response
3. Will show behaviour which is bizarre. Thus, a behaviour without any purpose.
4. Unable to control their inhibitions and impulses.

5. “Negative” Symptoms:

Negative symptoms are those behaviours which a normal person exhibits but, a person suffering from schizophrenia is unable to show. These behaviours can include:

1. Lack of Expressions of Emotions: They will not show any emotions on their face. Moreover, they will have a very flat voice and lack eye contact. Thus, having a blank face.
2. Lack of Interest: The person will start losing interests in activities they used to like. Also, they will be unable to self-care and will not be able to motivate themselves. Along with, people being unable to motivate them.
3. Losing interest in their surroundings: They will start losing as well as caring about their environment. Thus, leading to a complete social withdrawal.
4. Difficulty in Speech and Other Abnormalities: They will have one monotone when speaking to someone. Also, they will not be able to answer or connect to the replies they are giving.

It is still unknown why Schizophrenia happens, it includes environmental as well as genetic causes. But, it is very important to receive proper treatment as soon as possible. It is a common myth that schizophrenia cannot be treated. But, it can be cured. Hence, if you or someone you know is suffering from Schizophrenia, then please consult a professional immediately.

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