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The Kinsey Scale also is known as the Heterosexual-Homosexual Rating Scale. The scale goes from Zero to Six, where zero is the completely heterosexual and six is completely homosexual.

According to Alfred Kinsey, also known as the father of the sexual revolution, it is not possible to divide the world into a heterosexual and homosexual population.

Below is a pictorial representation of the ranges of the Kinsey and their explanation.

Signs that Your Husband or Boyfriend is a homosexual

1. He doesn’t look or check out other women: You maybe be in a committed relationship, but it the human tendency of heterosexual men to notice all women if your partner is not checking out other women, it may be a sign that he is a homosexual.
2. He checks out other men: If an attractive man walks into the room does your significant stop to look at him? He may be interested in men more than he is interested in women.
3. He is physical with other men: If he is touchy feely with other men. He enjoys the company of other men more then the company of women, this may be an indication of him being gay
4. He is homophobic: He displays a great dislike for gay people. This is a sign of his him being unsure of his own sexuality. A straight man most likely has nothing against gay men.
5. He is obsessed with other peoples sexuality: He is constantly assuming, talking about or commenting that other people may be gay.
6. Lack of interest in sex with you: He has very limited interest in sex with you. The reason for this is that he may be asexual, or he may be a homosexual.
7. His online behavior is suspicious: He is viewing gay porn or has gay friends and contacts on social media. Or he is listed on a gay dating website.

Your next Steps

There is a probability that since he is in a relationship with you, he isn’t gay but he is bisexual. Not every man who likes other men is gay, there is a silent majority of men who are bisexual.

So should you be worried if your man is bisexual? Most likely not, as long as he isn’t cheating on you. The fact that he is attracted to both men and women is no different than him being attracted to women other than you.

If your partner’s sexual preferences are confusing you, it makes sense to talk to an experienced Psychologist, who will be able to help you deal with your concerns.

Please read the connected article: Is your Husband Bisexual

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“Friends are relatives you make for yourself.” ― Eustache Deschamps

If you think about this quote for a moment, let the magnitude and gravity of it sink in. While relatives are God-given, and we have no choice in them, friends we can choose for ourselves. Friends are those individuals who compliment us and enrich our lives.

A question that we may ask ourselves is, why do we need friends? Here are 7 reasons as to why friends are important in our lives

1. Friends are there to help share your sorrow and lift you up in your moments of joy: Friends will listen to you when you are going through a rough patch in your life, and guide you. When you are in a happy phase of your life they will enhance happiness.
2. Friends help you in developing your social skills: Your friends will drag you out of comfort zone and take you to places and events that you may think that you won’t enjoy. A friend is someone who will encourage you to attend an art exhibition or a classical music event, things not in your usual repertoire.
3. Friends keep you grounded: Friends bring us face to face with harsh realities. Bringing our attention to clothes that may not be appropriate to our behavior that that may not be correct.
4. Friends can improve your sense of belongingness and purpose in life: Having a close friend can reduce stress and boost your happiness
5. Your friends can help you cope with traumas in life such death of near one, illness, divorce or end of a relationship, or loss of a job.
6. Those with friends tend to look after their own health and happiness
7. Friends are an antidote to loneliness: Anyone who as friends will never be lonely. Human’s are social animals and having friends helps bridge loneliness and makes us feel like we are a part of something much bigger

If you have good friends in your life, be thankful. Take this opportunity to reconnect with them and appreciate their presence in your life.

If you are feeling lonely, please consult with an experienced Psychologist. They will be able to guide you on how to overcome this loneliness.

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Married or in a relationship, you will face issues with your Significant Other (SO). Here are seven issues that most couples face and the best way to tackle them.

As a couple you are maturing:

The relationship that you had a few weeks ago, a few months ago or a few years ago is no longer the relationship that you have today. With each passing day, your relationship matures and changes. You need to appreciate that change is inevitable and continue to love each other regardless.

Address issues when they occur:

Don’t allow issues to fester but address them as and when they occur. If it bothers you that he doesn’t put down the toilet seat, or it bothers you that she doesn’t screw on the cap on the toothpaste tube then you need to talk about these issues. Address the issues when they happen instead of piling them up.

Use “I” instead of “you” when you have a disagreement:

Every healthy relationship will have disagreements, but for the argument to be healthy use “I” instead of you. So instead of saying “you were mean to me” say “I was hurt when you said that”.

You have to be the change that you want to see in a relationship:

As Gandhi Ji said “be the change you want to see in the world”, in this case in your relationship. You can’t control their behavior but you can control your own.

Relationships are not always equal:

There is a belief that for a relationship to be successful it has to be fifty-fifty. There will be occasions when your partner needs you 100%, be there for them. Remember this is temporary only.

Be open:

Couples often play the passive-aggressive role. They don’t express their feels, needs or desires and then are upset when their needs are not fulfilled. Be expressive about what you need.

You can divorce yourself from the situation:

If a situation or activity doesn’t give you joy, you are free to avoid it. If you don’t enjoy meeting your in-laws, don’t prevent your spouse from meeting his or her family. Simply excuse yourself from such situations.

No one relationship is perfect, but you can make it the best possible with a little bit of effort.

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September 06, 2018, will mark an important day for the LGBT community in India. The Supreme Court of India abolished Section 377 of the Indian Penal Code (IPC).  This law came into effect in the year 1982. It stated that the carnal intercourse against the order of nature with man, woman or animal was punishable with imprisonment of a lifetime or at least 10 years of jail, with or without fine.

Today’s judgment symbolizes the beginning of unbiased treatment for the LGBTQ community in our country. For a very long time, the community has been harassed and struggled. They had been treated as the discarded sections, always. But the decision of abolishing Section 377 is a huge initiation in terms of equality.

Chief justice Dipak Misra and Justices DY Chandrachud, AM Khanwilkar, Indu Malhotra, and Rohinton Fali Nariman decreed that LGBTQ community will now have the same sexual rights just like everyone else.

The Journey

In 2009, Delhi High court had declared that any consensual sexual act between homosexuals in private is not illegal. But later, Justice G S Singhvi did not validate the decision and said that it is on the members of Parliament to make any decision on the topic.

However, in April 2014, the Supreme Court suggested the government to declare transgender as the third sex and should be able to practice all the rights under the law and also asked the community in the OBC category. Naz Foundation in April 2016 filed a petition and the Chief Justice, TS Thakur decided to review the same along with a constitutional bench of 5 other members.

The Verdict

Finally, following the small steps over the time, here is the decision, taken for the welfare of the LGBTQ community. From the common man to the United Nations, everyone is praising the decision. There is a wave of happiness all over the country.

The Psychological Benefits of the verdict

The verdict is the right step in the direction of equality as there will be no victimization or labelling of any alternate sexuality. This might not end discrimination totally, but this will open the doors of acceptance for people of the LGBT community. The harassment and blackmailing of the gay people will stop, which had actually been one of the major reasons in the past for them to remain in the closet. The homosexuals who married the opposite sex due to the stigma can come out now, ending their unhappy marriages.

Accepting others for who they are is the biggest support one can give each other. Sexuality is not an acquired trait, its very much natural.

All the protests and demonstrations finally end in a fruitful result. From here on, there will be hearts full of love and heads held up high with pride.

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