BY: Dr. Prerna Kohli
Living with Compassion
“Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them, humanity cannot survive.” Dalai Lama
Compassion is the motivation to help others when you see them suffering. Hence, Humanity compels us to Living Life with Compassion. Thus, compassion is what makes on help some else who is suffering physically, emotionally, spiritually or mentally.
The Dalai Lama very appropriately said that if you want others to be happy, practice compassion. Thus if you want to be happy, practice compassion. Hence, below are 5 things to do become more compassionate. According to The Dalai Lama being compassionate not only makes the other person happy, but it also makes you happy.
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Have Compassion for yourself:
First thing to remember, is to start with yourself, be gentler kinder and forgiving with yourself. By the same token, forgive yourself for your past mistakes. As the saying goes charity begins at home. Just think about it, how can you be more compassionate with others if you don’t love yourself.
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Deal with Genuine concern:
Secondly, when dealing with the other person, deal with genuineness and, the person who is suffering doesn’t just need your time, money and effort, they also need your genuine concern. Hence, remember compassion comes from the heart.
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Listen
Listen to the other person problem, don’t be dismissive, don’t jump into resolving the problem, but with compassion and care, listen to what the other person has to say. Practice compassion by listening to the individual who is suffering.
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Speak from your heart:
Speak to the person who is suffering, with love and affection, speak from your heart. Even if you aren’t in a position to help them, listen to them, and after listening to them speak from your heart. There is a difference from speaking from your mind versus speaking from your heart. The message from the heart is full of compassion and love.
Thus, living with Compassion is a learned behavior. People believe that certain people are more compassionate than others, while this is true, this doesn’t prevent anyone else from learning how to be more compassionate towards other living beings.
“Let us fill our hearts with our own compassion – towards ourselves and towards all living beings.” ~ Thich Nhat Hanh
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About Dr. Prerna Kohli
Dr. Kohli believes that “You can talk with a close friend or relative about what’s troubling you, but it’s not the same as a professionally-trained experienced psychologist who knows exactly what kind of help you need.”
She is a 100 women Achievers Award Winner (2016) from the Honorable President of India, Shri Pranab Mukherjee.
Dr. Prerna Kohli is a Clinical Psychologist, a Public Speaker, a Workshop Facilitator and a Holistic Practitioner. She offers Heart-based workshops and lectures that focus on Life Balance, Self-awareness, and Inner Peace. She is dedicated to sharing her knowledge and compassion with others. Prerna blends intuitive wisdom with a solid understanding. And creating a powerful holistic approach, specializing in the areas of Emotional change.
Dr. Prerna Kohli is a leading Psychologist in India. With over 20 years of experience and has been providing families, individuals, parents and children counseling on being happy.
BY: Dr. Prerna Kohli
Living with someone Suffering from Depression?
Living with someone suffering from Depression?
Firstly what is depression? In a layman’s terms, depression is a strong feeling of helplessness, due to which a person is not able to function normally at home or at work.
Technically speaking depression is when a person feels sad, anxious, empty, hopeless, helpless, worthless, guilty, irritable, angry, ashamed or restless. They may lose interest in activities that were once pleasurable, experience loss of appetite or overeating, have problems concentrating, remembering details or making decisions, experience relationship difficulties and may contemplate, attempt or commit suicide. Insomnia, excessive sleeping, fatigue, aches, pains, digestive problems or reduced energy may also be present.
Frequently, I am asked what can I do, if I am living with someone who is suffering from depression? Here are 7 ways you can help:
- In the first place, make it clear that you want to help, listen without judgment and offer support.
- Also, encourage them to seek professional help Offer to accompany them to their appointments with the psychologist, mental health professional or counselor.
- If medication is prescribed, help them take it as it is prescribed. Also, please be patient with your patient, the medicine takes a time to make them feel better.
- Help them with everyday tasks, and to have regular eating and sleeping pattern.
- Encourage them to exercise regularly and also to partake in social activities
- Learn more about depression, update your information on this illness.
- If they are thinking of self-harm, to have already attempted to harm themselves, do not leave them alone, and remove dangerous things such as sharp objects, medicines, and guns away from them.
In conclusion, when you live with someone with depression, you can help them recover, but you need to take care of yourself first. Thus, Depression is a disease that can be cured.
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About Dr. Prerna Kohli
Dr. Kohli believes that “You can talk with a close friend or relative about what’s troubling you, but it’s not the same as a professionally-trained experienced psychologist who knows exactly what kind of help you need.”
She is a 100 women Achievers Award Winner (2016) from the Honorable President of India, Shri Pranab Mukherjee.
Dr. Prerna Kohli is a Clinical Psychologist, a Public Speaker, a Workshop Facilitator and a Holistic Practitioner. She offers Heart-based workshops and lectures that focus on Life Balance, Self-awareness, and Inner Peace. She is dedicated to sharing her knowledge and compassion with others. Prerna blends intuitive wisdom with a solid understanding. And creating a powerful holistic approach, specializing in the areas of Emotional change.
Dr. Prerna Kohli is a leading Psychologist in India. With over 20 years of experience and has been providing families, individuals, parents and children counseling on being happy.
BY: Dr. Prerna Kohli
Emotional Eating – what and whatnot to do
Seeking solace in food at the weak moments in life is referred to as Emotional Eating. Thus, People turn towards food for comfort, this may happen consciously or unconsciously. Unfortunately, this will negatively impact your health as well as weight and will definitely sabotage your weight-loss program.
The most common triggers are
- Relationship problems, issues, with spouse, children, and others
- Work problems, issues at the workplace often manifest themselves in emotional eating
- Fatigue or symptoms of fatigue such as high blood pressure, Vitamin D deficiency among other causes of fatigue will trigger emotional eating
- Financial problems, lack of money, excessive expenditure, and other financial concerns are known to trigger emotional eating
- Health issues, actual or perceived health issues will be the onset of emotional eating for many people
Some people are known to eat lesser when they suffer from emotional setbacks, but a majority of the population will seek comfort in food and this binge eating is deprived of all enjoyment of eating food. Thus, for some people, food serves as a distraction from the emotional turmoil in their life. These people will eat snacks, treats, and other food whenever they are upset or angry. So, eating food subconsciously becomes a diversion tactic for these people to avoid the emotional situation.
Hence, the outcomes of emotional eating irrespective of the reason are the same, weight gain, self-loathing, guilt, and an unhealthy lifestyle.
If you are suffering from emotional eating the following steps will help you:
- Firstly, maintain a food diary of everything except water that goes into your mouth
- Meditate, exercise, do deep breathing, when you have the urge to eat
- Drink water, or green tea when you are feeling stress and the onset of emotional eating
- It’s equally important to, Discuss your problem with friends and family, and seek their support
- Also, don’t allow yourself to have free time, beat the boredom
- Don’t stock your pantry with tempting snacks
- Snack on healthy snacks, replace fattening snacks with fresh carrot sticks
- Learn from your setbacks, if you experience a setback, learn from it and move forward
With a little practice and willpower, you can overcome Emotional Eating.
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About Dr. Prerna Kohli
Dr. Kohli believes that “You can talk with a close friend or relative about what’s troubling you, but it’s not the same as a professionally-trained experienced psychologist who knows exactly what kind of help you need.”
She is a 100 women Achievers Award Winner (2016) from the Honorable President of India, Shri Pranab Mukherjee.
Dr. Prerna Kohli is a Clinical Psychologist, a Public Speaker, a Workshop Facilitator and a Holistic Practitioner. She offers Heart-based workshops and lectures that focus on Life Balance, Self-awareness, and Inner Peace. She is dedicated to sharing her knowledge and compassion with others. Prerna blends intuitive wisdom with a solid understanding. And creating a powerful holistic approach, specializing in the areas of Emotional change.
Dr. Prerna Kohli is a leading Psychologist in India. With over 20 years of experience and has been providing families, individuals, parents and children counseling on being happy.
BY: Dr. Prerna Kohli
Traveling Boosts Mental Health
First and foremost, it is a well-kept secret that Traveling Boosts Mental Health. When someone is feeling low, anxious or is suffering from a mild depression, it is recommended that a trip will help improve their mental health.
Traveling to another city or country not only is an opportunity to see that region’s history and partake in its culture, but it is also a break for the mind. One leaves their problems at home and while on the trip and imbibing the experiences of this new land.
Besides the break from the day to day challenges of living your routine life, the opportunity of travel encourages mental growth as well as widens the horizons of the mind.
Below are the top psychological benefits of Travel:
Planning the trip A person starts to plan the trip well in advance, the research of the hotels to stay in, restaurants to eat in, cultural experiences to partake in keep the mind busy and preoccupied in a positive way. The inter-action with friends and advisors on what to see and do in the new place leads to positive endomorphins being released in the brain.
Travel lowers Stress levels As one travels the “stress” is different, such as what is a good place to eat at, what are the best sights to see, thereby distracting the mind even though temporarily from the problems that one may have at home.
Travel improves your brain health In a new location one faces new challenges such as language, food etc., the mind becomes active and responsive in resolving these issues. You become more and more globally and culturally aware. Research has shown that those who travel are more open and emotionally stable than those who don’t.
Travel Keeps your fit Travelling will not only make your mentally alert and fitter but also physically. Carrying those suitcases, and walking kilometers and kilometers each day as you assimilate the culture of the new country/city makes your muscles stronger. Not only do you sleep better at night but you become physically stronger. We all know the psychological benefits of these.
In conclusion, traveling improves your mental health. What are you waiting for? Start planning your next vacation now.
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About Dr. Prerna Kohli
Dr. Kohli believes that “You can talk with a close friend or relative about what’s troubling you, but it’s not the same as a professionally-trained experienced psychologist who knows exactly what kind of help you need.”
She is a 100 women Achievers Award Winner (2016) from the Honorable President of India, Shri Pranab Mukherjee.
Dr. Prerna Kohli is a Clinical Psychologist, a Public Speaker, a Workshop Facilitator and a Holistic Practitioner. She offers Heart-based workshops and lectures that focus on Life Balance, Self-awareness, and Inner Peace. She is dedicated to sharing her knowledge and compassion with others. Prerna blends intuitive wisdom with a solid understanding. And creating a powerful holistic approach, specializing in the areas of Emotional change.
Dr. Prerna Kohli is a leading Psychologist in India. With over 20 years of experience and has been providing families, individuals, parents and children counseling on being happy.
BY: Dr. Prerna Kohli
IQ vs EQ: Intelligence Quotient (IQ) & Emotional Quotient (EQ)
IQ vs EQ? What is the difference between IQ and EQ? Is IQ better than EQ?
There are so many questions and misconceptions regarding these two terms. I will be clearing any doubts around these two terms and explain which is better.
First and foremost for the definitions:
Firstly, Intelligence Quotient or frequently referred to as IQ is the intelligence quotient score which is calculated from several standardized tests. These tests are for maths, logic and verbal skills. Hence, the tests are designed to assess the human being’s intelligence. Thus, the abbreviation “IQ” was termed by the psychologist William Stern. Generally, IQ scores are used for deciding which class a student needs to be placed in, assessment of intellectual disability, and evaluating job applicants. All things considered, a person who has a high IQ will be exceptionally good at maths, or other mental skills.
Emotional Quotient or frequent referred to as EQ is the ability of human beings to be able to recognize their own, and others emotions, to be able to differentiate between feelings and label them accordingly, to use emotional information to guide thinking and actions, and to be able to manage and modify emotions to suit the circumstance. On the other hand, a person who has a high EQ will be extremely good at relating with other people, and to be able to sympathize and appreciate their human values.
For instance, having a higher IQ may help an individual perform well on a test, but those people who have a lower IQs but higher EQs score will demonstrate remarkable ability to respect other people, their emotions, and other aspects of their life.
Frequently I am asked what is better to have a high IQ or EQ to be successful in life? No doubt, in my opinion, if an individual has a reasonable amount of IQ to function in society, coupled with a high EQ will be far more successful in life. In conclusion, imagine who would you like to spend more time with, someone who has incredibly high accuracy in maths, and is brilliant in taking test, but has very low people skills, is unable to relate to other human beings, or someone who is sympathetic to your pain and is there to share your joys in life.
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About Dr. Prerna Kohli
Dr. Kohli believes that “You can talk with a close friend or relative about what’s troubling you, but it’s not the same as a professionally-trained experienced psychologist who knows exactly what kind of help you need.”
She is a 100 women Achievers Award Winner (2016) from the Honorable President of India, Shri Pranab Mukherjee.
Dr. Prerna Kohli is a Clinical Psychologist, a Public Speaker, a Workshop Facilitator and a Holistic Practitioner. She offers Heart-based workshops and lectures that focus on Life Balance, Self-awareness, and Inner Peace. Dedicated to sharing her knowledge and compassion with others, Prerna blends intuitive wisdom with a solid understanding, creating a powerful holistic approach, specializing in the areas of Emotional change.
Dr. Prerna Kohli is a leading Psychologist in India with over 20 years of experience and has been providing families, individuals, parents and children counseling on being happy.
BY: Dr. Prerna Kohli
Building Mental Strength
We all want to Build Mental Strength. It is a well-established fact that mentally strong people are more successful. We all want to be more successful, whether it is to have more money, better relationships, more success in the workplace etc. Given below are sure shot tricks to Building Mental Strength, which is the first step on your journey to being more successful.
Set reasonable goals and follow through with them:
When you set goals for yourself, don’t make them humongous, but set smaller more achievable goals. Instead of saying that I will walk 10 KM today, and then fail and disappoint yourself, make an achievable goal, that I will walk 1 KM today. Achieve the goal, and celebrate it. Tomorrow slowly increase the distance, and over a period of time meet your goal of walking 10 KMs
Make yourself strong against negativity:
Remove negative people from your life, create a distance between yourself and them. Interact with them less and less. Setup your mental mindset to ignore negative people, negative thoughts, and negative instances in life.
Use positive self-talk to build your mental and emotional strength:
Always talk to yourself positively, never negative talk to yourself. Never tell you self that you are incapable of doing something. Always coach yourself positively and give yourself positive and uplifting motivation and messages.
Learn to stay calm under pressure:
If you are living the ECG of your life will be up and down, when it is down and there is pressure in your life. Learn to stay calm, the negative time will pass, and don’t even for a split second believe that if you get excited and don’t remain calm it will not happen. You need to build your ability to stay calm when you are under pressure.
Let go of the little things:
Don’t sweat the little stuff, learn to let go of the small stuff. People carry grudges for far too long. This is certainly not helping you, learn to let go of your anger and move forward.
Change your perspective:
Tough as this sounds, it is very doable, you need to change your perspective in life. In life there is nothing “right” or “wrong” (except in very rare cases). You need to change your perspective and change your mindset from “blame” to “ownership”. Don’t blame others for your problems, but take ownership of how you will be responsible for your own actions.
Have a positive outlook:
Having a positive outlook and attitude is half the battle won. A positive attitude causes a chain reaction of positive thoughts, events, and outcomes. It is a catalyst and it sparks extraordinary results. Live your life day by day and each day, start your day with a positive attitude, trying to get better and more mentally strong.
Unfortunately, people have a very wrong opinion that Mental Strength is something you either have or you haven’t. I am complete disagreement with this statement, in my extensive experience as a Psychologist, I have learned that Mental Strength is just another skill that can be learned by anyone.
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About Dr. Prerna Kohli
Dr. Kohli believes that “You can talk with a close friend or relative about what’s troubling you, but it’s not the same as a professionally-trained experienced psychologist who knows exactly what kind of help you need.”
She is a 100 women Achievers Award Winner (2016) from the Honorable President of India, Shri Pranab Mukherjee.
Dr. Prerna Kohli is a Clinical Psychologist, a Public Speaker, a Workshop Facilitator and a Holistic Practitioner. She offers Heart-based workshops and lectures that focus on Life Balance, Self-awareness, and Inner Peace. Dedicated to sharing her knowledge and compassion with others, Prerna blends intuitive wisdom with a solid understanding, creating a powerful holistic approach, specializing in the areas of Emotional change.
Dr. Prerna Kohli is a leading Psychologist in India with over 20 years of experience and has been providing families, individuals, parents and children counseling on being happy.
BY: Dr. Prerna Kohli
Loving Your Partner
Loving Your Partner is an ongoing activity, it is simple to fall out of love, but we must continuously endeavor to keep our love alive. Below are my favorite tips to keep your love alive.
Distinguish between infatuation and love:
Love is seeing all the flaws and blemishes and accepting them. Love is accepting the bad habits and mannerisms, and working around them. Also, it is recognizing all the fears and insecurities, and knowing your role is to comfort. Furthermore, Love is working through all the challenges and painful times. Infatuation is fragile and will shatter when life is not perfect.
Choose to love your partner:
Choose to show your love for your partner, all relationships have one law. Never make the one you love feel alone, especially when you are there.
Be open and honest with each other:
A loving partnership is about character – integrity, honesty, kindness, generosity, moral courage, and the like. More than anything else, it is about how we treat one another.
Date your partner all over again:
Just because you are married and have a ring on the finger and a paper certificate should not stop you from dating your partner, go on date nights like lovers and not a married couple.
Stay in love:
Lao Tzu said: “Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” In a marriage with responsibilities of children, parents, financial obligations, it becomes very easy to fall out of love, stay connect with each other, find a common interest, and stay in love like you used to be.
Love the whole person:
Love every aspect of your significant other, love their annoying habits, love their interests, love their mind, love their soul, love their body despite all its blemishes.
Be-one but be separate:
Be one with your spouse, but have an independent life also, have your own friends, your own interests, and your own hobbies. It may sound like an oxymoron, but it is the key to loving your partner.
There is only one happiness in this life, to love and be loved. Show your love and it is but natural that the other person will reciprocate.
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About Dr. Prerna Kohli
Dr. Kohli believes that “You can talk with a close friend or relative about what’s troubling you, but it’s not the same as a professionally-trained experienced psychologist who knows exactly what kind of help you need.”
She is a 100 women Achievers Award Winner (2016) from the Honorable President of India, Shri Pranab Mukherjee.
Dr. Prerna Kohli is a Clinical Psychologist, a Public Speaker, a Workshop Facilitator and a Holistic Practitioner. She offers Heart-based workshops and lectures that focus on Life Balance, Self-awareness, and Inner Peace. Dedicated to sharing her knowledge and compassion with others, Prerna blends intuitive wisdom with a solid understanding, creating a powerful holistic approach, specializing in the areas of Emotional change.
Dr. Prerna Kohli is a leading Psychologist in India with over 20 years of experience and has been providing families, individuals, parents and children counseling on being happy.
BY: Dr. Prerna Kohli
Traits of Successful People!
We all want to be successful and there is nothing wrong with this; in fact, it is rare to find anyone who isn’t looking for more success. Success is not something that can be gifted or inherited, but fortunately, parents can inculcate traits in their children from an early age that will increase their probability of being successful. Listed below are common traits of successful people:
They are ambitious:
They have a strong desire to achieve something in their life. Hence, they are driven by desire and determination. Ambition is the path to success. Persistence is the vehicle you arrive in.
They are courageous:
They are brave and not fearful, pain and anxiety don’t stop them in their path. Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts for them.
committed:
Once they have chosen a path or a goal, they are committed to it and are not easily waivered. So, their focus on their goal is laser-like, and live, breath and sleep their goal. Thus, they appreciate that unless a commitment is made, there are only promises and hopes… but no plans.
Prepared:
They will review every detail in advance, the effort that they expend in preparation ensure that they will succeed in achieving their goal. Thus, they have realized that there are no secrets to success. Hence, it is the result of preparation, hard work, and learning from failure.
Continuous learners:
They have understood that if they are not continuously improving, then they are continuously deteriorating. To continuously improve themselves they never stop learning. They understand that they should never become so much of an expert that they stop gaining expertise. Hence, they have imbibed that life is a continuous learning experience.
Responsible:
To understand the importance of being responsible; they don’t make excuses for uncompleted tasks but are responsible enough to finish each task that they undertake successfully. About responsibility, they understand that it is not only for what they did that they are held responsible but also for what they did not do.
In conclusion, the path to success is not a secret, each and every one of us will find ourselves become more successful as we imbibe these simple rules in our day to day living.
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About Dr. Prerna Kohli
Dr. Kohli believes that “You can talk with a close friend or relative about what’s troubling you, but it’s not the same as a professionally-trained experienced psychologist who knows exactly what kind of help you need.”
She is a 100 women Achievers Award Winner (2016) from the Honorable President of India, Shri Pranab Mukherjee.
Dr. Prerna Kohli is a Clinical Psychologist, a Public Speaker, a Workshop Facilitator and a Holistic Practitioner. She offers Heart-based workshops and lectures that focus on Life Balance, Self-awareness, and Inner Peace. Dedicated to sharing her knowledge and compassion with others, Prerna blends intuitive wisdom with a solid understanding, creating a powerful holistic approach, specializing in the areas of Emotional change.
Dr. Prerna Kohli is a leading Psychologist in India with over 20 years of experience and has been providing families, individuals, parents and children counseling on being happy.
BY: Dr. Prerna Kohli
Things Mentally Strong People Do!
As a psychologist, I have noticed that certain people are more successful than others in their journey of life… What is evident is that those of us who are mentally stronger are more successful. Below are Things Mentally Strong People Do, to succeed in life.
They move on:
First of all, they don’t waste time feeling sorry for themselves, they don’t cry over spilt milk!
They keep control:
Also, they don’t give away their power, and they don’t allow others to control them.
They embrace change:
People like them welcome challenges in life, and adapt themselves and embrace the change quickly.
They stay happy:
Secondly, they don’t complain, they don’t waste energy on the things that they can’t control.
They are kind, fair and unafraid to speak up.
Also, they don’t worry about pleasing other people. Thus, they are focused on the path to success.
They are willing to take calculated risks:
Third, they weigh the risks and benefits before taking action and stick to the decision taken.
They invest their energy in the present.
People like them don’t dwell on the past, and they don’t fantasize about the future.
They accept full responsibility for their behaviour
People like them don’t make the same mistake over and over. Hence, they accept the lessons they have learned from their past mistakes and don’t repeat them.
They celebrate other people’s success:
Most importantly, they don’t resent other’s successes.
They are willing to fail:
People like them don’t give up after failing. Hence, they see every failure as a chance to improve themselves, and to learn from the failure.
They enjoy their time alone:
Also, they don’t fear to be alone and use the silence of being alone to introspect and balance their inner energies.
They are prepared to work and succeed on their own merits:
They don’t feel that the world owes them anything; there is no feeling of entitlement, and expectation from others, but a clear understanding and acceptance that they alone can build their future.
They have staying power:
People like them don’t expect immediate results. Thus, they appreciate that Rome wasn’t built in a day, and success has its own timeframe.
They evaluate their core beliefs:
And they adjust their beliefs as required.
They expend their mental energy wisely:
Thus, they don’t waste their mental energy on needless things such as gossip and other unproductive thoughts.
They think productively:
People like them replace negative thoughts with positive productive thoughts.
They tolerate discomfort:
Furthermore, they accept their feelings and don’t allow their thoughts to control them.
They reflect on their progress:
Every day they take time to evaluate what they have achieved and chart their way forward. They have created their road map to success and constantly recalibrate it.
In conclusion, anyone can be successful in life, but to be successful one needs to be mentally strong, following these tips, will lead one on to the path of success.
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About Dr. Prerna Kohli
Dr. Kohli believes that “You can talk with a close friend or relative about what’s troubling you, but it’s not the same as a professionally-trained experienced psychologist who knows exactly what kind of help you need.”
She is a 100 women Achievers Award Winner (2016) from the Honorable President of India, Shri Pranab Mukherjee.
Dr. Prerna Kohli is a Clinical Psychologist, a Public Speaker, a Workshop Facilitator and a Holistic Practitioner. She offers Heart-based workshops and lectures that focus on Life Balance, Self-awareness, and Inner Peace. Dedicated to sharing her knowledge and compassion with others, Prerna blends intuitive wisdom with a solid understanding, creating a powerful holistic approach, specializing in the areas of Emotional change.
Dr. Prerna Kohli is a leading Psychologist in India with over 20 years of experience and has been providing families, individuals, parents and children counseling on being happy.
BY: Dr. Prerna Kohli
Parental Exam Tips
Parental Exam Tips:
Exam Tips for parents; with final exams around the corner, below are some tips for parents to ensure that there is smooth sailing during this period of high stress.
Exam tips:
Encourage them to ready their exam equipment, such as pencils, pens, notebooks and other stationary
If they are going for a board exam, to a different center than their usual school, do a dry run, on how long it takes to reach the exam center at the scheduled time, as parent keep your vehicle prepped up.
Prepare a checklist of what they need to carry with them, run through the checklist to make sure that everything is assembled
Make sure that your child understands and believes that you are proud of them, and will love them irrespective of how they fare in the exams. Create an environment of encouragement and positivity around them. In our family it is about eating a special meal (sweet rice and curd) and a quick trip to the neighborhood temple, create a pre-exam routine for your child
Post the exam tips:
The period after the exams is a time to talk about how your children feel, allow them to talk while you listen to them. Ensure that they don’t focus on their mistakes. This is a good time to share your own experiences with examinations when you were growing up. This is a time to provide encouragement and allay their fears, plan on some fun activities with your child. In India board exams (class X, and specifically class XII) and the ensuing results are an important milestone in a child’s life, they have their own fears and apprehensions of the future, you are as parent need to the calming force and energy in this period.
One of my favorite sayings: “When thinking of life, no amount of guilt can solve the past, and no amount of anxiety can solve the future. “
